HOW MEMORIES INFLUENCE OUR THINKING AND BEHAVIOR

Dr. Leaf discovered in her research that what we consciously think and what we say and do comes from the information and memory images in the unconscious mind that has been accumulating since our birth. These memories form the perceptual base through which we see life and react to stressful situations. Additionally, I learned how I could change my thinking and ultimately my reactions to stress from the book Dr. Leaf wrote called Switch on Your Brain. It is because of this book that I had the courage to begin a Master’s degree and accomplished getting a post-baccalaureate certificate as part of the Master’s program. The pages on my website were created because I applied the principles she laid out.

The last time I wrote I said that I had an addiction to anger, that is I could not control it and it controlled me. Little by little as I worked through the trauma memories from my past, and I have broken the anger stronghold in my life.  The sooner we realize how much our memories affect our present decisions and behaviors, the sooner we will seek to transform these memories. The following story about how I overcame a memory that generated anger is true. I have to preface this story with the fact that I do believe in God and that He helps us find the memories that keep us from being healthy and whole and He heals them. For some the concept of God is not a part of your thinking or belief and I don’t have enough time to fully explain the reality of God, but suffice it to say, He is the almighty spirit who always was and always will be and is above all other spirits, both good (angels) and bad (demons) and He wants to give us His Spirit. For now, if you don’t presently believe, then I ask that you seek to understand by asking God to show His truth to you. If you are offended by God, which we all have been at one time in our lives, then please seek His forgiveness and help.  There is so much I could say, I would encourage you to read the Bible to help you understand God, and you can read my web page called “Who God is…”.

The following story is my experience of how an unconscious memory affected my relationship with a friend. This story is from my website and booklet I wrote, to learn more please visit.

I often found myself getting angry with the kindest person ever, who had never said anything mean or unkind to me, so why would I get angry with her? This went on for several years until finally I went to God in prayer and asked Him to show me why I would get uncontrollably angry with her when I had absolutely no reason to be angry. I waited for a while for God to speak to my mind. He dropped the word “irresponsibility” in my mind. I asked Him to show me why I would be angry about this. I waited quietly for a little while then God brought up the repressed trauma memory of my father’s irresponsibility that I had taken offense to, and I didn’t even know it. My friend had triggered the unseen hurt and anger. I then went through the forgiveness process for each of the trauma memories that God brought up from my unconscious, and I released them by verbally losing and putting off the offenses from my heart along with all the negative energies of the trauma memories from every cell where they had been stored. I also sought forgiveness from God for my anger. When I completed this process, I was no longer angry with that person.

I was healed of those trauma memories several years ago and to this day, her irresponsibility does not bother me, and I can love her just as she is.  I hope this helps and I hope you visit my website to learn more about how our memories control our lives.

Author: Joyce Holzman Hanscom

I am helping the women at the county jail to transform their painful memories and hurts to heal their negative heart issues so they can make good decisions. I am also a Sunday School and Bible teacher, originally trained as a computer science teacher.

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