If you haven’t read the previous chapters/pages, please do that now, so you fully understand the supporting theories for the instructions on this page and the remaining pages. 1–Healing Begins by Transforming Painful Memories — 2–Removing Blocks to Healing —3–Breaking Free From Mental Strongholds
Steps to Finding and Healing Painful Memories
1-Ask God to remove pride and deceptive spirits that would keep you from humbling yourself and hearing from Him.
2-Read each fruit characteristic chapter. As you read over the negative aspects, ask the Holy Spirit to reveal the following:
- Related painful memories
- past or present
- your sin or another person’s unloving behavior
- Unhealthy beliefs associated with the negative aspect
- Word curses
- Vows you may have made
- Your sinful reactions to the painful event
Write what He shows you in your journal.
Recall the earliest or strongest memory of a time when you felt the same emotion(s) for each of the negative behaviors in the prayer focus worksheets. It does not have to be a memory of a similar situation or event; it only has to contain the same feelings. It may be a memory of a general time-period (i.e. birth, toddler, elementary, etc.) or situation (i.e. death, sickness, divorce, etc.) in your life instead of one specific incident or actual event. Identify what is important about the time-period or ongoing situation. List all the beliefs and any new feelings associated with that memory.
3-Look to see if the issue is generational. (i.e. sins, curses, or dysfunctions) which are past down through DNA markers that need to be loosed.
4-Ask God to show you if the issue is related to a soul tie that needs to be broken.
5-Ask God to show you any negative sinful reactions in your response to the stressful situation or evil done to you that also needs to be confessed and forgiven.
6-Pray the example prescribed prayer below for each issue the Holy Spirit reveals. As you pray, breathe deeply to remain focused on the transformation of the Holy Spirit, which also releases emotional stress. This prayer is not a formula but a guide. Fill in the blanks with the specific facts the Holy Spirit shows you. Writing out this prayer model helps you focus on the Holy Spirit flow, which will reveal other false/unhealthy beliefs or memories for the issue being healed.
If the issue you are dealing with is an offense from another person’s sin or weakness then pray from your heart: Dear Lord, I forgive _(person’s name)_ for _(offense)_. Loose/put off the resentment and the power it has over me, in Jesus’ name. Forgive me. Lord, for _(sinful response to issue)_ and remove my guilt, in Jesus’ name.
Dear Lord, thank You for helping me by Your grace and power to overcome the negative heart issue of ___. By the authority of Jesus Christ, loose and remove all oppressive spirits and negative emotions attached to this memory of ___, in Jesus’ name. By Your power and authority, I loose every related wrong thinking and unhealthy belief(s) of ____, in Jesus’ name. I put on/bind to my mind, heart, and soul the following truths: ____ (found in the issues worksheet.)
Lord, I am thankful for how You _(protected, rescued, helped, provided for, guided, or comforted)_ me in this painful time in my life. Replace this painful memory with the vision of You loving me. (Take a moment and see God shielding you and loving you in your memory.)
Lord, loose and remove DNA markers for generational sins, curses, or dysfunctions related to the issue of ___. Break exposed soul ties, word curses, and vows of ___. And, destroy all evil spirit attachments to _(negative issue)_. In Jesus’ name. Amen
- After you have prayed the prayer model, think about the issue again, and rate your discomfort from 0 to10. If there isn’t an improvement, then ask the Holy Spirit to show you other facets of the issue that also need to be healed. Wait for a word, thought, feeling, or vision. List all the beliefs and any additional feelings associated with that memory.
REPEAT THESE STEPS FOR EACH PAINFUL MEMORY.
As you heal each of the issues the Holy Spirit shows you, other issues will come up to be healed, which is related to the previously healed issues. Remember, Satan knows our weaknesses and he makes sure we continue to struggle with the same issues. Also, our weaknesses attract evil spirit attachments that would continue the destruction in our lives, which is why there can be many layers.
EXAMPLE PRAYER: Dear Lord, I forgive my mother for being frustrated, over-reactive, and not patient and kind when I needed her to be. I forgive her parents for being over-reactive to my mother and not modeling love through patience and kindness. I confess and forgive myself for being frustrated and over-reacting in the same way to my husband and children and not loving them by being patient and kind. Forgive me for reacting in anger toward my mother, sisters, husband, and children, and then in self-pity and despair toward myself. Remove all my guilt, in Jesus’ name.
I ask that You show me the unknown/subconscious strongholds, unhealthy beliefs, wrong thinking, oppressive spirit attachments, destructive cellular memories, related to mine and my mother’s over-reactive nature and self-pity.
I loose and remove the resentment and disappointment and negative energy from my heart and mind of all the times my mother did not respond to me with love. I loose the false belief that my mother did not love me or care about me. And I loose the negative energy of resentment in my husband and children when I responded with frustration and over-reacted. Loose and remove the oppressive energy/spirits attached to the painful memories of mine and my mother’s frustration and overreaction, in Jesus’ name.
Thank You, Lord, for healing me and restoring love and patience to my heart toward my mother, sisters, husband, and children. I put on/bind to my mind and heart the truth that I can be self-controlled in my emotions and reactions. I can love my mother, sisters, husband, and children by being patient and kind as God is patient and kind to me, in Jesus’ name. Amen
(Prayed truth statements in the Love, Patience, and Kindness prayer focuses.)
I can testify, along with others, that my life has been completely transformed by these steps to finding painful memories and healing issues outlined above. I continue to see tremendous transformations as I pray the prayer model and work through the issues listed in the nine core prayer focuses of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. I now look in the mirror and see a happy, emotionally healthy, content woman, not a hurting, angry, anxious little girl. When you look in the mirror what do you see?
I encourage you to repeat the nine core prayer focuses often, even if you just bind the truths and positive behaviors to your heart to reinforce your transformation. Consider making it a part of your meditation/prayer time. Dr. Caroline Leaf believes that it takes repeated work for permanent change to take effect, especially in the “non-conscious mind.” These prayer focuses are just a tool. As you read your Bible, you may see other areas in which your thinking and beliefs may not line up with the truth. Verbally and by faith (knowing it is the Holy Spirit doing the work in you), in Jesus’ name loose/put-off the wrong belief or thinking, then bind/put on the truth. Remember, that you will experience physical detox symptoms when you detox negative emotions and destructive memories, this is normal.
Take the following quiz to discover unresolved childhood and negative heart issues: DISCOVER UNRESOLVED NEGATIVE HEART ISSUES QUIZ
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