The negative issues listed below create offenses in your heart, that impairs your ability to be gentle and love others well.
You may like to read the following post: The Core Negative Heart Issue, HOW PRIDE DESTROYS
Read through the list below. If any of the negative issues, unhealthy beliefs, or behaviors on this list evokes a negative emotion, go back to 5–Finding Painful Memories and Healing Issues to identify the related painful memories. Be sure to loose/put off the oppressive energies and spirits attached to each painful memory. It is helpful to keep a prayer journal to track your healing.
Inferiority: below average; feel lower in value
Superiority: far above the average; high in value
Wrongful pride: a high or inordinate opinion of one’s own dignity, importance, merit, or superiority
Envy: feeling iscontent and ill will because of another’s advantage, possessions, etc.; resentful dislike of another who has something desirable
Vanity: excessive pride in one’s appearance, qualities, abilities, achievements, etc.
Condemnation of self and others: disapprove of strongly
Disrespect of self and others: discourteous, impolite; rude
Humiliation: to lower the dignity of; hurt the feelings of by causing to be or seem foolish or contemptible
Judgmental attitude: giving an opinion or estimate; criticism
Feeling disgraced, dishonored, disrespected
Powerless: without power; weak; feeble; unable
Loose UNHEALTHY BELIEFS AND LIES—bind in the opposite
People must think well of me for me to be OK. I don’t matter. (Bind/put on: I matter to God, and I please Him.)
Taking any means to get people to think well of me (manipulation)
My self-esteem and self-image is so destroyed.
Who cares? I’ll never think better of myself.
I can’t tell broken-hearted from humble.
Every time I felt good about myself, something bad happens.
I feel like kicking humble people. Being wimpy doesn’t get you anywhere.
MEEKNESS, HUMILITY, AND GENTLENESS IS…
Pray and bind/put on all the following attributes and truths to your mind and heart:
To be kindly; amiable; not severe, rough, or violent; mild
Tenderhearted: easily moved to pity; sympathetic
Humble: not being self-asserting and boastful
Meek: patient and mild; not inclined to anger or resentment. Albert Barnes wrote in his commentary that meekness was proof of the true greatness of soul. It comes from a heart not moved by little insults.
Kindly: gracious; benevolent; agreeable; pleasant
Serene: undisturbed; calm; tranquil; quiet
Patient: calmly tolerating delay, confusion, inefficiency, etc.; able to wait calmly
Polite: having good manners; courteous
Respectful: courteous regard; to hold in esteem or honor
Balanced self-confidence: belief in or reliance on oneself or one’s abilities with God’s strength
The right use of power: merciful
TRUTH AND TRANSFORMATION STATEMENTS
It only matters what God thinks of me. He sees Christ’s life in me, and I am holy, dearly loved, blameless, and righteous. Col. 3:3-4, 12; Eph.1:4; 2 Cor. 5:21
Humility realizes that everything I have, including my abilities, is a gift from God. Deut. 8:17-18
I do not think of myself more highly than others, but in humility, I will regard others as more important than myself. Rom. 12:3; Phil. 2:3
God lifts up the humble in due time, so I will cast all my anxiety on Him because He cares for me. 1 Pet. 5:6-7; James 4:10
I am humbled when I see my need for God and trust He will guide me in what is right for all His ways are loving and faithful. Ps. 25:9-10
When I am humble, then I will be honored. Prov.15:33b