Do you become offended? Do you humbly consider the interests of others? Why do we want to control what other people do or don’t do to satisfy our interests? Why do we sometimes find it hard to do what the Apostle Paul writes in Philippians 2:3-7?  Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. 4Let each of you look not only to his own interests but also to the interests of others. 5Have this mind [attitude] among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though He was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied Himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men.

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The Core Negative Heart Issue


How to Convert Pridefulness to Gentleness and Humility

Ask God to remove the spirit of pride and any deceptive spirits that would keep you from humbling yourself and hearing from Him. Confess and seek God’s forgiveness for known sins, so your prayers are not blocked.  All your prayers should include “In Jesus’ name” because John 14:14 says, “If you ask anything in my name, I will do it.”

For each negative behavior described below, ask the Holy Spirit to reveal the following things: (Write what He shows you in your journal. Be patient; you may have to wait until a picture comes to your mind.)

      • Related painful memory
          • past or present
          • your sin or another person’s unloving behavior
      •   Unhealthy beliefs.
      •   Word curses or vows.
      •   Your sinful reactions to the painful event that may have hurt or offended someone.
      •   Family history.

Recall the earliest or strongest memory of a time when you felt the same emotion(s) for each of the negative behaviors in the fruit focuses. It may be a memory of a general time period (i.e., birth, toddler, elementary, teens, etc.) or situation (i.e., death, sickness, divorce, etc.) in your life instead of one specific incident or actual event. Identify what is important about the time period or ongoing situation. List all the beliefs and any new feelings associated with that memory.

If you are angry at God for what happened, confess it and ask Him to take your angry emotions and resentment from you. I was mad at God, and He still loved me, and He still loves you.

Wrong Attitudes (which lead to destructive behavior)

Inferiority: below average; feel lower in value.

Superiority: far above the average; high in value.

Wrongful pride: an excessively high opinion of one’s own dignity, importance, merit, or superiority.

Envy: feeling discontent and ill will because of another’s advantage, possessions, etc.; resentful dislike of another who has something desirable.

Vanity: excessive pride in one’s appearance, qualities, abilities, achievements, and so on.

Condemnation of self and others: strong disapproval-make to feel disgraced, dishonored, disrespected.

Disrespect of self and others: discourteous, impolite; rude.

Humiliation: lowering the dignity of; despising and denigrating the value of yourself and others; crushing someone’s spirit by portraying them as foolish or contemptible.

Judgmental attitude: giving a negative or condescending opinion or estimation.

Powerless: without power; weak; feeble; unable.

Put off unhealthy beliefs and lies God showed you, then bind in a healthy or true belief. For example, if the unhealthy belief is, “People must think well of me for me to be valuable,” bind on a truth such as: “God values me, and He is preparing me to do good works.” For thoughts such as, “I only matter, no one else matters,” bind on the truth, “I can value others as I value myself.”

Pray the example prayer below for each issue the Holy Spirit reveals. As you pray, breathe deeply to release emotional stress and remain focused on the Holy Spirit’s leading. This prayer is not a formula but a guide. Fill in the blanks with the specific facts the Holy Spirit shows you. Writing out this prayer model helps you focus on the Holy Spirit’s presence, which will reveal other false/unhealthy beliefs or memories for the issue being healed.

If the issue you are dealing with is an offense from another person’s sin or weakness, then pray from your heart:

Dear Lord, I forgive _(person’s name)_ for _(offense)_. I release the resentment and the power it has over me, in Jesus’ name. Forgive me. Lord, for _(sinful response to issue)_ and remove my guilt, in Jesus’ name.

Lord, thank You for helping me by Your grace and power to overcome the negative heart issue of ___. Please remove all oppressive spirits and negative emotions attached to the memory of ____, in Jesus’ name. Also, by Your power and authority, I put off every related wrong thinking and unhealthy belief(s) of ____, in Jesus’ name. I bind to my mind, heart, and soul the following truths (see truth section below):____.

Lord, I am thankful for how You _(protected, rescued, helped, provided for, guided, or comforted)_ me in this painful time in my life.(Take a moment and see God comforting and loving you in your memory.)

Lord, remove generational sins, curses, or dysfunctions related to the issue of ___. Break exposed soul ties, word curses, and vows of ___. Destroy all evil spirit attachments to _(negative issue)_, in Jesus’ name. Thank You for healing my soul and prospering me (3John 2). Amen

After praying the prayer model, think about the issue again and rate your discomfort from 0 to 10. If there isn’t an improvement, ask the Holy Spirit to show you other facets of the issue that need to be healed. Wait for a word, thought, feeling, or vision. List all the beliefs and any additional feelings associated with that memory.

MEEKNESS, HUMILITY, AND GENTLENESS AREPray and bind/put on all the following attributes and truths to your mind and heart:

Gentle: I am kind, amiable, not severe, rough, or violent.

Tenderhearted: I am easily moved to pity and sympathy.

Humble: I am not self-promoting or boastful. I am a servant.

Meek: I am patient and mild; not inclined to anger or resentment. Albert Barnes wrote in his commentary that meekness was proof of the true greatness of the soul.  It comes from a heart not moved by little insults.

Kind: I am gracious, benevolent, agreeable, and pleasant.

Serene: I am undisturbed, calm, tranquil, and quiet.

Patient: I calmly tolerate delay, confusion, inefficiency, etc., and am able to wait calmly.

Polite: I have good manners and am courteous.

Respectful: I have courteous regard for others and show honor.

Balanced self-confidence: I believe in myself and my abilities through God’s ability.

Merciful: I do not repay evil for evil but give grace instead.


It only matters what God thinks of me.  He sees Christ’s life in me; I am holy, dearly loved, blameless, and righteous (Col. 3:3-4, 12; Eph.1:4; 2Cor. 5:21).

Humility realizes that everything I have, including my abilities, is a gift from God (Deut. 8:17-18).

I do not think of myself more highly than others, but in humility, I will regard others as more important than myself (Rom. 12:3; Phil. 2:3).

God lifts up the humble in due time, so I will cast all my anxiety on Him because He cares for me (1Pet. 5:6-7; James 4:10).

I am humbled when I see my need for God and trust He will guide me in what is right, for all His ways are loving and faithful (Ps. 25:9-10).

When I am humble, I will be honored (Prov.15:33b).

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