The negative issues listed below create offenses in your heart, that impairs your ability to be gentle and love others well.

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The Core Negative Heart Issue


Ask God to remove pride and deceptive spirits that would keep you from humbling yourself and hearing from Him. Also, repent of your sins so your prayers are not blocked.  All your prayers are to include “In Jesus’ name” because John 14:14 says, “If you ask anything in my name, I will do it.”

For each negative behavior described below, ask the Holy Spirit to reveal the following things: (Write in your journal what He shows you. Be patient, you may have to wait until a picture comes to your mind.)

      • Related painful memory
          • past or present
          • your sin or another person’s unloving behavior
      •   Unhealthy beliefs.
      •   Word curses or vows.
      •   Your sinful reactions to the painful event that upset someone.
      •   Family history.

Recall the earliest or strongest memory of a time when you felt the same emotion(s) for each of the negative behaviors in the fruit focuses. It may be a memory of a general time-period (i.e. birth, toddler, elementary, teens, etc.) or situation (i.e. death, sickness, divorce, etc.) in your life instead of one specific incident or actual event. Identify what is important about the time-period or ongoing situation. List all the beliefs and any new feelings associated with that memory.

If you are angry at God for what happened, confess it and ask Him to take your angry emotions and resentment from you. I was mad at God and He still loved me, and He still loves you.

Negative Behaviors

Inferiority: below average; feel lower in value

Superiority: far above the average; high in value

Wrongful pride: a high or inordinate opinion of one’s own dignity, importance, merit, or superiority

Envy: feeling discontent and ill will because of another’s advantage, possessions, etc.; resentful dislike of another who has something desirable

Vanity: excessive pride in one’s appearance, qualities, abilities, achievements, etc.

Condemnation of self and others: disapprove of strongly

Disrespect of self and others: discourteous, impolite; rude

Humiliation: to lower the dignity of; hurt the feelings of by causing to be or seem foolish or contemptible

Judgmental attitude: giving an opinion or estimate; criticism

Feeling disgraced, dishonored, disrespected

Powerless: without power; weak; feeble; unable

Loose UNHEALTHY BELIEFS AND LIES and bind in the opposite

People must think well of me for me to be OK.  I don’t matter. (Bind/put on: I matter to God, and I am His workmanship.)

Pray the example prescribed prayer below for each issue the Holy Spirit reveals. As you pray, breathe deeply to releases emotional stress and remain focused on the Holy Spirit’s flow . This prayer is not a formula but a guide. Fill in the blanks with the specific facts the Holy Spirit shows you. Writing out this prayer model helps you focus on the Holy Spirit flow, which will reveal other false/unhealthy beliefs or memories for the issue being healed.

If the issue you are dealing with is an offense from another person’s sin or weakness then pray from your heart:

Dear Lord, I forgive _(person’s name)_ for _(offense)_. Loose/put off the resentment and the power it has over me, in Jesus’ name. Forgive me. Lord, for _(sinful response to issue)_ and remove my guilt, in Jesus’ name.

Lord, thank You for helping me by Your grace and power to overcome the negative heart issue of ___. By the authority of Jesus Christ, loose and remove all oppressive spirits and negative emotions attached to the memory of ____, in Jesus’ name. By Your power and authority, I loose every related wrong thinking and unhealthy belief(s) of ____, in Jesus’ name. I put on/bind to my mind, heart, and soul the following truths:____.

Lord, I am thankful for how You _(protected, rescued, helped, provided for, guided, or comforted)_ me in this painful time in my life. Replace this painful memory with the vision of You loving me. (Take a moment and see God shielding you and holding you in your memory.)

Lord, loose and remove DNA markers for generational sins, curses, or dysfunctions related to the issue of ___. Break exposed soul ties, word curses, and vows of ___. And, destroy all evil spirit attachments to _(negative issue)_. In Jesus’ name. Amen

After you have prayed the prayer model, think about the issue again, and rate your discomfort from 0 to 10. If there isn’t an improvement, then ask the Holy Spirit to show you other facets of the issue that also need to be healed. Wait for a word, thought, feeling, or vision. List all the beliefs and any additional feelings associated with that memory.

MEEKNESS, HUMILITY, AND GENTLENESS ISPray and bind/put on all the following attributes and truths to your mind and heart:

To be kindly; amiable; not severe, rough, or violent; mild

Tenderhearted: easily moved to pity; sympathetic

Humble: not being self-asserting and boastful

Meek: patient and mild; not inclined to anger or resentment.  Albert Barnes wrote in his commentary that meekness was proof of the true greatness of soul.  It comes from a heart not moved by little insults.

Kindly: gracious; benevolent; agreeable; pleasant

Serene: undisturbed; calm; tranquil; quiet

Patient: calmly tolerating delay, confusion, inefficiency, etc.; able to wait calmly

Polite: having good manners; courteous

Respectful: courteous regard; to hold in esteem or honor

Balanced self-confidence: belief in or reliance on oneself or one’s abilities with God’s strength

The right use of power: merciful


It only matters what God thinks of me.  He sees Christ’s life in me, and I am holy, dearly loved, blameless, and righteous. Col. 3:3-4, 12; Eph.1:4; 2 Cor. 5:21

Humility realizes that everything I have, including my abilities, is a gift from God. Deut. 8:17-18

I do not think of myself more highly than others, but in humility, I will regard others as more important than myself. Rom. 12:3; Phil. 2:3

God lifts up the humble in due time, so I will cast all my anxiety on Him because He cares for me. 1 Pet. 5:6-7; James 4:10

I am humbled when I see my need for God and trust He will guide me in what is right for all His ways are loving and faithful.  Ps. 25:9-10

When I am humble, then I will be honored. Prov.15:33b

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