The negative issues listed below create offenses in your heart, that impairs your ability to be gentle and love others well.

You may like to read the following post: 

The Core Negative Heart Issue


Read through the list below. If any of the negative issues, unhealthy beliefs, or behaviors on this list evokes a negative emotion, go back to 5–Finding Painful Memories and Healing Issues to identify the related painful memories.

Identify the negative beliefs you have, then prayerfully put them off. Be sure to loose/put off the oppressive energies and spirits attached to each painful memory.  It is helpful to keep a prayer journal to track your healing.

Inferiority: below average; feel lower in value

Superiority: far above the average; high in value

Wrongful pride: a high or inordinate opinion of one’s own dignity, importance, merit, or superiority

Envy: feeling discontent and ill will because of another’s advantage, possessions, etc.; resentful dislike of another who has something desirable

Vanity: excessive pride in one’s appearance, qualities, abilities, achievements, etc.

Condemnation of self and others: disapprove of strongly

Disrespect of self and others: discourteous, impolite; rude

Humiliation: to lower the dignity of; hurt the feelings of by causing to be or seem foolish or contemptible

Judgmental attitude: giving an opinion or estimate; criticism

Feeling disgraced, dishonored, disrespected

Powerless: without power; weak; feeble; unable

Loose UNHEALTHY BELIEFS AND LIES and bind in the opposite

People must think well of me for me to be OK.  I don’t matter. (Bind/put on: I matter to God, and I am His workmanship.)

MEEKNESS, HUMILITY, AND GENTLENESS ISPray and bind/put on all the following attributes and truths to your mind and heart:

To be kindly; amiable; not severe, rough, or violent; mild

Tenderhearted: easily moved to pity; sympathetic

Humble: not being self-asserting and boastful

Meek: patient and mild; not inclined to anger or resentment.  Albert Barnes wrote in his commentary that meekness was proof of the true greatness of soul.  It comes from a heart not moved by little insults.

Kindly: gracious; benevolent; agreeable; pleasant

Serene: undisturbed; calm; tranquil; quiet

Patient: calmly tolerating delay, confusion, inefficiency, etc.; able to wait calmly

Polite: having good manners; courteous

Respectful: courteous regard; to hold in esteem or honor

Balanced self-confidence: belief in or reliance on oneself or one’s abilities with God’s strength

The right use of power: merciful


It only matters what God thinks of me.  He sees Christ’s life in me, and I am holy, dearly loved, blameless, and righteous. Col. 3:3-4, 12; Eph.1:4; 2 Cor. 5:21

Humility realizes that everything I have, including my abilities, is a gift from God. Deut. 8:17-18

I do not think of myself more highly than others, but in humility, I will regard others as more important than myself. Rom. 12:3; Phil. 2:3

God lifts up the humble in due time, so I will cast all my anxiety on Him because He cares for me. 1 Pet. 5:6-7; James 4:10

I am humbled when I see my need for God and trust He will guide me in what is right for all His ways are loving and faithful.  Ps. 25:9-10

When I am humble, then I will be honored. Prov.15:33b

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