Do you sometimes envy, act superior, be disrespectful, or be judgmental? If yes, you need healing of past or present gentleness issues. In fact, the issues listed below create offenses in our hearts, which prevents us from being gentle, and loving others well.
Read through the list below. If you relate to an unhealthy belief or behavior on the list, go back to 5–Finding Painful Memories and Healing Issues to identify the related painful memories. Then, pray the prayer example for each issue. Next, lose/put off the oppressive energies and spirits attached to each painful memory. It is helpful to keep a prayer journal to track your healing.
Inferiority: below average; feel lower in value
Superiority: far above the average; high in value
Wrongful pride: a high or inordinate opinion of one’s own dignity, importance, merit, or superiority
Envy: a feeling of discontent and ill will because of another’s advantage, possessions, etc.; resentful dislike of another who has something desirable
Vanity: excessive pride in one’s appearance, qualities, abilities, achievements, etc.
Condemnation of self and others: disapprove of strongly
Disrespect of self and others: discourteous, impolite; rude
Humiliation: to lower the dignity of; hurt the feelings of by causing to be or seem foolish or contemptible
Judgmental attitude: giving an opinion or estimate; criticism
Feeling disgraced, dishonored, disrespected
Powerless: without power; weak; feeble; unable
Loose UNHEALTHY BELIEFS AND LIES—bind in the opposite
People must think well of me for me to be OK. I don’t matter. (Bind/put on: I matter to God, and I please Him.)
Taking any means to get people to think well of me (manipulation)
My self-esteem and self-image is so destroyed.
Who cares? I’ll never think better of myself.
I can’t tell broken-hearted from humble.
Every time I start to feel good about myself, something bad happens.
I feel like kicking humble people. Being wimpy doesn’t get you anywhere.
MEEKNESS, HUMILITY, AND GENTLENESS IS… Pray and bind/put on all of the following attributes and truths:
Gentle: kindly; amiable; not severe, rough, or violent; mild
Tenderhearted: easily moved to pity; sympathetic
Humble: not being self-asserting and boastful
Meek: patient and mild; not inclined to anger or resentment. Albert Barnes wrote in his commentary that meekness was proof of the true greatness of soul. It comes from a heart not moved by little insults.
Kindly: gracious; benevolent; agreeable; pleasant
Serene: undisturbed; calm; tranquil; quiet
Patient: calmly tolerating delay, confusion, inefficiency, etc.; able to wait calmly
Polite: having good manners; courteous
Respectful: courteous regard; to hold in esteem or honor
Balanced self-confidence: belief in or reliance on oneself or one’s abilities with God’s strength
The right use of power: merciful
TRUTH AND TRANSFORMATION STATEMENTS
It only matters what God thinks of me. He sees Christ’s life in me, and I am holy, dearly loved, blameless, and righteous. Col. 3:3-4, 12; Eph.1:4; 2 Cor. 5:21
Humility realizes that everything I have, including my abilities, is a gift from God. Deut. 8:17-18
I do not think of myself more highly than others, but in humility, I will regard others as more important than myself. Rom. 12:3; Phil. 2:3
God lifts up the humble in due time, so I will cast all my anxiety on Him because He cares for me. 1 Pet. 5:6-7; James 4:10
I am humbled when I see my need for God and trust He will guide me in what is right for all His ways are loving and faithful. Ps. 25:9-10
When I am humble, then I will be honored. Prov.15:33b