No one loves perfectly. So everyone needs healing for past and present love issues. Also, unloving acts create offenses in our hearts, which prevent us from loving others well. For a better understanding, read the following blogs: Freedom from the Spirit of Jealousy and Love From a Pure Heart
Read through the list below. If any of the negative issues, unhealthy beliefs, or behaviors on this list evokes a negative emotion, go back to 5–Finding Painful Memories and Healing Issues to identify the related painful memories. Then, pray the prayer example on page 5 for each issue. Next, loose/put off the oppressive energies and spirits attached to each painful memory. It is helpful to keep a prayer journal to track your healing.
Jealousy: watchful or solicitous in guarding or keeping: as a man is jealous of his rights. Or jealous of someone else’s advantage.
Envy: a feeling of discontent and ill will because of another’s advantage, possessions, etc.; resentful dislike of another who has something desirable
Rudeness: to act unbecomingly or discourteous
Bragging: to boast; or arrogant: full of or due to unwarranted pride and self-importance; overbearing; haughty
Self-seeking: insist on your own way
Easily angered; provoked, irritable
Unforgiving: keeping a record of wrongs
Resentful: the feeling of displeasure or indignation at some act, remark, person, etc., regarded as causing injury or insult
Hateful: to have a strong dislike or ill will for; loathe; despise
Delight in evil: morally bad or wrong; wicked; depraved
Pray: Lord, I lose the unhealthy belief(s) from my mind and heart that___(i.e., I am unlovable, insignificant, and flawed.) I bind into my heart and mind that___ (i.e., I am lovable, significant, and healthy), in Jesus’ name.
PRAY THE ABOVE FORMAT FOR THE REMAINING UNHEALTHY BELIEFS/LIES
Who could possibly love me? I will do anything and everything to get them to love me. (Bind in – God loves me unconditionally.)
What’s the use? I can’t make them love me. I can’t love them. (Bind in – I can give preference to them and honor them in love.)
Love leads to loss. I can’t stand any more pain. It hurts too much to love.
I am afraid I will be rejected. I had better hold back my love.
I would do anything for an indication of approval or love.
If they don’t love me, it’s their fault. They annoy me anyway. If they know what’s good for them, they will give me what I want.
I don’t need their love. They should be grateful that I give them my time and attention. Who needs them?
1 Cor. 13:4-7—LOVE IS…
Pray and bind/put on all the following attributes and truths to your mind and heart:
Patient: bearing or enduring pain, trouble, etc. without complaint, losing self-control, making a disturbance, etc. 2. refusing to be provoked or angered, as by an insult; forbearing; tolerant
Kind: sympathetic, friendly, gentle, tender-hearted, generous, etc. [is humble: one who has a modest opinion or estimate of one’s own importance, rank, etc. and meek: humbly patient, as under provocation from others]
Rejoices with the truth; of God and His Word
Bears all things (NAS & ESV): patiently endures;
always protects (NIV): guard; defends the truth
Believes all things (NAS & ESV);
always trusts (NIV): God and His promises
Hopes all things (NAS & ESV);
always hopes (NIV): believes and claims God’s promises
Endures all things (NAS & ESV); always perseveres (NIV): steady persistence in a course of action, a purpose, a state, etc., especially in spite of difficulties, obstacles, or discouragement (does not quit)
TRUTH AND TRANSFORMATION STATEMENTS
Love is being able to let go a wrong, forgive, and not stir up strife. Prov. 10:12; 1 Pet. 4:8
As I stay in love, then I will also abide in God’s love, and He will watch over me. 1 John 4:16; Ps. 145:20
I can love others as I love myself and would want them to love me. Mk. 12:31; Matt. 7:12; Luke 6:31
God is love, and God loves me. Nothing in the universe can separate me from the love of God. Rom. 8:39
God loved me first, so I can love others and myself. 1 Jn. 4:19
As I increase in love for others, being tenderhearted, kind, and forgiving, God will strengthen my heart so I will be blameless and holy. Eph. 4:32; 1 Thes. 3:12,13
I devote myself to loving others, and I can give preference to others in honor and serve them. Rom. 12:10; Gal. 5:13,14; Phil. 2:3-11
The love of God is perfected in me when I obey His Word. 1 Jn 2:5; 1 Pet 1:22