No one loves perfectly. So everyone needs healing for past and present love issues. Also, unloving acts create offenses in your heart, which impairs your ability to love others well. To learn more, read the following blogs: Freedom from the Spirit of Jealousy and Love From a Pure Heart
Ask God to remove pride and deceptive spirits that would keep you from humbling yourself and hearing from Him. Also, repent of your sins so your prayers are not blocked. All your prayers are to include “In Jesus’ name” because John 14:14 says, “If you ask anything in my name, I will do it.”
For each negative behavior described below, ask the Holy Spirit to reveal the following things: (Write in your journal what He shows you. Be patient, you may have to wait until a picture comes to your mind.)
- Related painful memory
- past or present
- your sin or another person’s unloving behavior
- Unhealthy beliefs.
- Word curses or vows.
- Your sinful reactions to the painful event that upset someone.
- Family history. If you see the same pattern or negative issue(s), assume that the issue that needs healing is generational.
- Related painful memory
Recall the earliest or strongest memory of a time when you felt the same emotion(s) for each of the negative behaviors in the fruit focus. It may be a memory of a general time-period (i.e. birth, toddler, elementary, teens, etc.) or situation (i.e. death, sickness, divorce, etc.) in your life instead of one specific incident or actual event. Identify what is important about the time-period or ongoing situation. List all the beliefs and any new feelings associated with that memory.
If you are angry at God for what happened, confess it and ask Him to take your angry emotions and resentment from you. I was mad at God and He still loved me, and He still loves you.
Jealousy: watchful or solicitous in guarding or keeping: as a man is jealous of his rights. Or jealous of someone else’s advantage.
Envy: feeling discontent and ill will because of another’s advantage, possessions, etc.; resentful dislike of another who has something desirable
Rudeness: to be dishonoring or discourteous
Bragging: to boast; or arrogant: full of or due to unwarranted pride and self-importance; overbearing; haughty
Self-seeking: insist on your own way
Easily angered; provoked, irritable
Unforgiving: keeping a record of wrongs
Resentful: the feeling of displeasure or indignation at some act, remark, person, etc., regarded as causing injury or insult
Hateful: to have a strong dislike or ill will for; loathe; despise
Delight in evil: morally bad or wrong; wicked; depraved
Abandonment and Betrayal
Loose UNHEALTHY BELIEFS AND LIES and bind in opposite
Pray: Lord, I lose the unhealthy belief(s) from my mind and heart that___(i.e. I am unlovable, insignificant, and flawed.) Pray, I bind into my heart and mind that I am lovable, significant, and valued, in Jesus’ name.
Pray the example prescribed prayer below for each issue the Holy Spirit reveals. As you pray, breathe deeply to releases emotional stress and remain focused on the Holy Spirit’s flow. This prayer is not a formula but a guide. Fill in the blanks with the specific facts the Holy Spirit shows you. Writing out this prayer model helps you focus on the Holy Spirit flow, which will reveal other false/unhealthy beliefs or memories for the issue being healed.
If the issue you are dealing with is an offense from another person’s sin or weakness then pray from your heart:
Dear Lord, I forgive _(person’s name)_ for _(offense)_. Loose/put off the resentment and the power it has over me, in Jesus’ name. Forgive me. Lord, for _(sinful response to issue)_ and remove my guilt, in Jesus’ name.
Lord, thank You for helping me by Your grace and power to overcome the negative heart issue of ___. By the authority of Jesus Christ, loose and remove all oppressive spirits and negative emotions attached to the memory of ____, in Jesus’ name. By Your power and authority, I loose every related wrong thinking and unhealthy belief(s) of ____, in Jesus’ name. I put on/bind to my mind, heart, and soul the following truths:____.
Lord, I am thankful for how You _(protected, rescued, helped, provided for, guided, or comforted)_ me in this painful time in my life. Replace this painful memory with the vision of You loving me. (Take a moment and see God shielding you and holding you in your memory.)
Lord, loose and remove DNA markers for generational sins, curses, or dysfunctions related to the issue of ___. Break exposed soul ties, word curses, and vows of ___. And, destroy all evil spirit attachments to _(negative issue)_. In Jesus’ name. Amen
After you have prayed the prayer model, think about the issue again, and rate your discomfort from 0 to 10. If there isn’t an improvement, ask the Holy Spirit to show you other facets of the issue that needs healing. List all the beliefs and any other feelings associated with that memory.
1 Cor. 13:4-7—LOVE IS… Pray and bind/put on all the following attributes and truths to your mind and heart:
Patient: bearing or enduring pain, trouble, etc., without complaint, losing self-control, making a disturbance, etc. 2. refusing to be provoked or angered, as by an insult; forbearing; tolerant
Kind: sympathetic, friendly, gentle, tender-hearted, generous, etc. [is humble: one who has a modest opinion or estimate of one’s own importance, rank, etc., and meek: humbly patient, even when provoked.]
Rejoices with the truth of God and His Word
Bears all things (NAS & ESV): patiently endures;
always protects (NIV): guard; defends the truth
Believes all things (NAS & ESV);
always trusts (NIV): God and His promises
Hopes all things (NAS & ESV);
always hopes (NIV): believes and claims God’s promises
Endures all things (NAS & ESV); always perseveres (NIV): steady persistence in a course of action, a purpose, a state, etc., despite difficulties, obstacles, or discouragement (does not quit)
Love is being able to let go a wrong, forgive, and not stir up strife. Prov. 10:12; 1 Pet. 4:8
As I stay in love, I will also abide in God’s love, and He will watch over me. 1 John 4:16; Ps. 145:20
I can love others as I love myself and would want them to love me. Mk. 12:31; Matt. 7:12; Luke 6:31
God is love, and God loves me. Nothing in the universe can separate me from the love of God. Rom. 8:39
God loved me first, so I can love others and myself. 1 Jn. 4:19
As I increase in love for others, being tenderhearted, kind, and forgiving, God will strengthen my heart so I will be blameless and holy. Eph. 4:32; 1 Thes. 3:12,13
I devote myself to loving others, and I can give others preference in honor and serve them. Rom. 12:10; Gal. 5:13,14; Phil. 2:3-11
The love of God is perfected in me when I obey His Word. 1 Jn 2:5; 1 Pet 1:22
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