Do you become frustrated, angry, or upset when expectations are not met? Do you become frustrated when you feel something is unfair or unjust?  If you do, you need healing for past and present patience issues.  In fact, when other people are not patient with you, it creates offenses in your heart that impair your ability to be patient and love others well. 

To learn more, read the following posts:

How Patience is a Sign of Maturity

How to Decrease Fairness Belief to Increase Patience

What is Wrong with Fairness?

Ask God to remove the spirit of pride and any deceptive spirits that would keep you from humbling yourself and hearing from Him. Also, confess and ask for God’s forgiveness for known sins so your prayers are not blocked.  All your prayers should include “In Jesus’ name” because John 14:14 says, “If you ask anything in my name, I will do it.”

For each negative behavior described below, ask the Holy Spirit to reveal the following things: (Write in your journal what He shows you. Be patient; you may have to wait until a picture comes to your mind.)

      •  Related painful memory
          • past or present
          • your sin or another person’s unloving behavior
      •   Unhealthy beliefs.
      •   Word curses or vows.
      •   Your sinful reactions to the painful event that may have hurt or offended someone.
      •   Family history.

Recall the earliest or strongest memory of a time when you felt the same emotion(s) for each of the negative behaviors in the fruit focus. It may be a memory of a general time period (i.e., birth, toddler, elementary, etc.) or situation (i.e., death, sickness, divorce, etc.) in your life instead of one specific incident or actual event. Identify what is important about the time period or ongoing situation. List all the beliefs and any new feelings associated with that memory.

If you are angry at God for what happened, confess it and ask Him to take your angry emotions and resentment from you. I was mad at God, and He still loved me, and He still loves you.

Negative Behavior

Frustration: a feeling of dissatisfaction, often accompanied by anxiety or depression, resulting from unfulfilled needs or unresolved problems.

Anger: a strong feeling of displeasure and belligerence aroused by a wrong; wrath.

Injustice: a wrong or injury.

Unfairness: treating someone with partiality and inequality.

Bitterness: characterized by intense antagonism or hostility.

Self-centered: concerned only with one’s own affairs; selfish; wanting things done your way only.

Put off UNHEALTHY BELIEFS AND LIES God shows you, then bind in the truth. For example, if your unhealthy belief is, “Something must change right now for me to be okay,” bind on truth such as, “I am okay because I value myself, and I value others.” Or, “Why even bother to consider being patient?” “No one else is patient.” Bind on: “I show my maturity and wisdom when I am patient.”

Pray the example prayer below for each issue the Holy Spirit reveals. As you pray, breathe deeply to release emotional stress and remain focused on the Holy Spirit’s presence. This prayer is not a formula but a guide. Fill in the blanks with the specific facts the Holy Spirit shows you. Writing out this prayer model helps you focus on the Holy Spirit’s guidance, which will reveal other false, unhealthy beliefs or memories for the issue being healed.

If the issue you are dealing with is an offense from another person’s sin or weakness, pray from your heart: Dear Lord, I forgive _(person’s name)_ for _(offense)_. I release the resentment and the power it has over me, in Jesus’ name. Forgive me. Lord, for _(sinful response to issue)_ and remove my guilt, in Jesus’ name.

Lord, thank You for helping me by Your grace and power to overcome the negative heart issue of ___. Please remove all oppressive spirits and negative emotions attached to the memory of ____, in Jesus’ name. By Your power and authority, I put off every related wrong thinking and unhealthy belief(s) of ____, in Jesus’ name. I bind to my mind, heart, and soul the following truths (from God’s Word):____.

Lord, I am thankful for how You _(protected, rescued, helped, provided for, guided, or comforted)_ me in this painful time in my life. (Take a moment and see God comforting and loving you in your memory.)

Lord, remove all generational sins, curses, or dysfunctions related to the issue of ___. Break exposed soul ties, word curses, and vows of ___.  Destroy all evil spirit attachments to _(negative issue)_, In Jesus’ name, and thank You for healing my soul and prospering me (3John 2). Amen

After praying the prayer model, think about the issue again and rate your discomfort from 0 to 10. If there isn’t an improvement, ask the Holy Spirit to show you other facets of the issue that also need healing. Wait for a word, thought, feeling, or vision. List all the beliefs and any additional feelings associated with that memory.

PATIENCE ISPray and bind on all the following attributes and truths to your mind and heart:

Bearing with others: I endure pain, trouble, inconvenience, etc., without complaint, losing self-control, or making a disturbance.

Forbearing: I can tolerate (put up with) difficult people, and keep myself in check. Refusing to be provoked or angered, as by an insult or frustration.

Just: I let moral principles determine proper conduct in my life.

Fair: I treat both or all sides alike.

Persevering: I have steady persistence to accomplish a purpose, despite difficulties, obstacles, or discouragement.

Merciful: I will be compassionate and show forbearance toward those who offend me.


Being patient shows wisdom. It is to my glory to overlook an offense and not be prideful and arrogant (Prov. 19:11; Eccl. 7:8b).

Being patient calms a quarrel, but anger stirs up strife, so I put off self-centered anger that insists on my way (Prov 15:18).

I can be patient with everyone, accept them, and not complain but forgive them as Christ is patient with me and forgives me (1Thes. 5:14b; Col. 3:12b,13).

By patience and faith, I will see the promises of God found in His Word (Heb. 6:12).

I can rejoice in hope, be patient in affliction, and always pray (Rom. 12:12).

I trust God to give me what I genuinely need in His perfect, divine timing (Phil. 4:19; Luke 12:22-34).

I can be humble, gentle, patient, and show tolerance for others in love (Eph. 4:2).

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