Do you have guilt, destructive thoughts, thoughts of not being valued, etc.?  If yes, you need healing for past or present goodness problems.  In fact, the negative issues listed below create offenses in your heart, which impairs your ability to be good and show love to others.  To learn more about goodness read: Part 1: How to Achieve Genuine Goodness? and Part 2: How to Overcome Evil with Good.

Diminish the “Self-centered” Belief to Expand Goodness (Other-centered)

Ask God to remove the spirit of pride and any deceptive spirits that would keep you from humbling yourself and hearing from Him. Confess and seek God’s forgiveness for known sins so your prayers are not blocked.  All your prayers should include “In Jesus’ name” because John 14:14 says, “If you ask anything in my name, I will do it.”

For each negative behavior described below, ask the Holy Spirit to reveal the following things: (Write in your journal what He shows you. Be patient, you may have to wait until a picture or word comes to your mind.)

      • Related painful memory
          • past or present
          • your sin or another person’s unloving behavior
      •   Unhealthy beliefs.
      •   Word curses or vows.
      •   Your sinful reactions to the painful event that may have hurt or offended someone.
      •   Family history.

Recall the earliest or strongest memory of a time when you felt the same emotion(s) for each of the negative behaviors in the fruit focuses.  It may be a memory of a general time period (i.e. birth, toddler, elementary, teens, etc.) or situation (i.e. death, sickness, divorce, etc.) in your life instead of one specific incident or actual event. Identify what is important about the time period or ongoing situation. List all the beliefs and any new feelings associated with that memory.

If you are angry at God for what happened, confess it and ask Him to take your angry emotions and resentment from you. I was mad at God and He still loved me, and He still loves you.

Negative Behavior

Abusive: treating badly or injurious; mistreating, especially physically, mentally, and emotionally.

Shaming: demeaning others about things done or not done; by what they have or don’t have; embarrassing; humiliating.

Guilt: making to feel bad for some offense, crime, wrong, and so on.

Condemnation: accusing, charging others with the wrong they did.

Gossip: idle talk or rumor, especially about the personal or private affairs of others.

Destructive: tearing down; criticism; harming others.

Devaluing: to make someone not feel they have value or worth.

Disobedient: neglecting or refusing to obey; not submitting.

Selfish: devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one’s own interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others.

Put off unhealthy beliefs and lies God shows you, then bind in a healthy or true belief. For example, if you have the unhealthy belief, “I am a terrible person,” bind on a truth such as, “I have the goodness and righteousness of Christ in me.” Or for, “I am unforgivable for the evil I did,” bind on, “Christ forgives me, and I can forgive myself.”

Pray the example prayer below for each issue the Holy Spirit reveals. You can write out your prayer however you wish. As you pray, breathe deeply to release emotional stress and remain focused on the Holy Spirit’s presence. This prayer is not a formula but a guide. Fill in the blanks with the specific facts the Holy Spirit shows you. Writing out this prayer model helps you focus on the Holy Spirit’s guidance, which will reveal other false/unhealthy beliefs or memories for the issue being healed.

If the issue you are dealing with is an offense from another person’s sin or weakness then pray from your heart:

Dear Lord, I forgive _(person’s name)_ for _(offense)_. I release the resentment and the power it has over me, in Jesus’ name. Forgive me. Lord, for _(sinful response to issue)_ and remove my guilt, in Jesus’ name.

Lord, thank You for helping me by Your grace and power to overcome the negative heart issue of ___. Please remove all oppressive spirits and negative emotions attached to the memory of ____, in Jesus’ name. By Your power and authority, I put off every related wrong thinking and unhealthy belief(s) of ____, in Jesus’ name. I bind to my mind, heart, and soul the following truths (from God’s Word):____.

Lord, I am thankful for how You _(protected, rescued, helped, provided for, guided, or comforted)_ me in this painful time in my life.  (Take a moment and see God comforting and loving you in your memory.)

Lord, remove all generational sins, curses, or dysfunctions related to the issue of ___. Break exposed soul ties, word curses, and vows of ___.  Destroy all evil spirit attachments to _(negative issue)_, in Jesus’ name. Thank You for healing my soul and prospering me (3John 2). Amen

After you have prayed the prayer model, think about the issue again, and rate your discomfort from 0 to 10. If there isn’t an improvement, then ask the Holy Spirit to show you other facets of the issue that also needs healing. Wait for a word, thought, feeling, or vision. List all the beliefs and any additional feelings associated with that memory.

GOODNESS ISPray and bind/put on all the following attributes and truths to your mind and heart:

Meekness: I am patient and self-controlled, not inclined to anger or resentment.

Righteousness: I can do what is right, correct, and appropriate.

Helpfulness: I can be of service, assist, and aid those in need, thus valuing others.

Self-sacrificing: I can practice self-denial as I sacrifice my interests in preference to others’ interests.

Morally Excellent: I can conform to the rules of proper conduct. I am virtuous in sexual matters.


When I do what is good, I will receive glory, honor, and peace (Rom. 2:10; 13:3b).

Because of God’s goodness to and in me, I can be good to those who mistreat or hate me (Luke 6:27; Matt. 5:44; Ps. 25:4-7; 31:19).

I can look out for other people’s interests above my own (Phil. 2:14) and please others for their good (Rom. 15:2).

I am ready for every good deed, to malign no one, be peaceable, gentle, and show every consideration (true humility) for others (Titus 3:1-2).

I can give a blessing and do good to all people instead of returning evil for evil  (1Pet. 3:9; 1Thes. 5:15).

After I received Jesus as my Savior (saved from sin and God’s wrath), God began a good work in me and will complete it (Phil. 1:6).  I am His workmanship, created for good works (Eph. 2:10; Phil. 2:12b,13).

I know I have goodness when my mouth speaks what is good, which is the fruit of the Spirit and Light in me, along with righteousness and truth (Matt. 12:34b-35; Gal. 5:22; Eph. 5:7-10).

I am known by what I do and engage in good deeds to meet pressing needs (Matt. 7:20; Titus 3:14).

I will not lose heart in doing good, knowing I will be rewarded.  When I have the opportunity, I will be good to all people, especially those belonging to God’s family (Gal. 6:9,10; Eph. 6:7,8).

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