Have you experienced rejection, abandonment, hurt, criticisms, etc.? If yes, then you may need healing for past and present kindness issues. In fact, all negative heart issues are rooted in real or perceived unkind words and actions. Unkind words and actions cause offenses in our hearts, which then prevents us from being kind and loving to others.
Read through the list below. If any of the negative issues, unhealthy beliefs, or behaviors on this list evokes a negative emotion, go back to 5–Finding Painful Memories and Healing Issues to identify the related painful memories. Be sure to loose/put off the oppressive energies and spirits attached to each painful memory. It is helpful to keep a prayer journal to track your healing.
Rejection: to refuse to accept someone or something; rebuff
Abandonment: to leave completely and finally; forsake utterly; desert
Hurt: to harm or damage in some way; cause mental distress or pain
Aggression: an unprovoked attack
Antagonism: active opposition
Destructiveness: tearing down; criticism
Roughness: harsh; rude; unmannerly
Meanness: offensive, selfish, or unaccommodating; nasty; malicious
Vengefulness: return an injury for an injury
Neglect: not care for or attend to
Selfishness: devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one’s own interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others
Criticism: to judge disapprovingly
Ostracism: banish, bar, shut out, etc.
Loose UNHEALTHY BELIEFS AND LIES—bind in the opposite
People will take advantage of me. People are too sensitive.
If they knew me, they would hate me. I don’t deserve kindness or anything else other than punishment and scorn.
Seeking kindness is like chasing my shadow. I can’t catch it no matter what I do. Unkindness, on the other hand, finds me automatically.
People who should have been kind to me weren’t. I had lots of times when I could have been kind, but they don’t deserve it.
My fears seal me off from receiving kindness from others.
I must manipulate people into being kind to me. I need their kindness, but I can’t share it with them.
Kindness means I get taken advantage of. People don’t respect kindness; they respect money and power.
Pray and bind/put on all the following attributes and truths to your mind and heart:
Gentle: kindly; amiable; not severe, rough, or violent; mild
Empathetic: the identification with feelings, thoughts, or attitudes of another
Friendly: like a friend; kind; helpful
Sympathetic: enter into another person’s mental state, feelings, emotions, etc.; pity or compassion
Generous: readiness or liberality in giving
Appreciative: to be grateful or thankful for
TRUTH AND TRANSFORMATION STATEMENTS
I can be kind to all and not quarrelsome, able to teach, patient when wronged, and not resentful. 2 Tim. 2:24
As God is kind to ungrateful and evil people so can I and my reward will be great. Luke 6:35; 1 Thes. 5:15
I can act with brotherly kindness and love. 2 Pet. 1:7
I can be kind to others, tender-hearted, and forgiving others, just as God in Christ also has forgiven me. Eph. 4:32
I will be blessed when I am kind and gracious to the needy, because it honors God, and He will repay/reward me for what I do. Prov. 14:21,31; 19:17
God is rich in mercy; because of His great love for me, He shows me the surpassing riches of His grace in His kindness to me. Eph. 2:4-7
Those who have been harsh with me were treated that way themselves. I choose to forgive them and begin a cycle of kindness and compassion. Eph 4:32