Refer to 5–Finding Bad Memories and Healing Issues to identify trauma memories related to your kindness issues listed below.

Confess and loose/put off the following statements you identify with, along with all associated memories, unhealthy beliefs, and oppressive energies/spirits.  It is helpful to keep a prayer journal so you can see how you have been healed and share your testimony.

Rejection: to refuse to accept someone or something; rebuff

Abandonment: to leave completely and finally; forsake utterly; desert

Hurt: to harm or damage in some way; cause mental distress or pain

Aggression:  an unprovoked attack

Antagonism: active opposition

Destructiveness: tearing down; criticism

Roughness: harsh; rude; unmannerly

Meanness: offensive, selfish, or unaccommodating; nasty; malicious

Vengefulness: return an injury for an injury

Neglect: not care for or attend to

Selfishness: devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one’s own interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others

Criticism: to judge disapprovingly

Ostracism: banish, bar, shut out, etc.

Loose UNHEALTHY BELIEFS AND LIES—bind in the opposite

People will take advantage of me.  People are too sensitive.

If they knew me, they would hate me.  I don’t deserve kindness or anything else other than punishment and scorn.

Seeking kindness is like chasing my shadow.  I can’t catch it no matter what I do.  Unkindness, on the other hand, finds me automatically.

People who should have been kind to me weren’t.  I didn’t learn to be kind to myself or others.  I had lots of times when I could have been kind, but they don’t deserve it.

My fears are supposed to keep me safe, but they seal me off from receiving the kindness of others.

I must manipulate people into being kind to me.  I need their kindness, but I can’t share it with them.

KINDNESS IS Pray and bind/put on all of the following attributes and truths:

Gentle:  kindly; amiable; not severe, rough, or violent; mild

Empathetic: the identification with feelings, thoughts, or attitudes of another

Friendly: like a friend; kind; helpful

Sympathetic: enter into another person’s mental state, feelings, emotions, etc.; pity or compassion

Generous: readiness or liberality in giving

Appreciative: to be grateful or thankful for


I can be kind to all and not quarrelsome, able to teach, patient when wronged, and not resentful.  2 Tim. 2:24

As God is kind to ungrateful and evil people so can I and my reward will be great. Luke 6:35; 1 Thes. 5:15

I can act with brotherly kindness and love.  2 Pet. 1:7

I can be kind to others, tender-hearted, and forgiving others, just as God in Christ also has forgiven me. Eph. 4:32

I will be blessed when I am kind and gracious to the needy, because it honors God, and He will repay/reward me for what I do. Prov. 14:21,31; 19:17

God is rich in mercy; because of His great love for me, He shows me the surpassing riches of His grace in His kindness to me. Eph. 2:4-7

Those who have been harsh with me were treated that way themselves.  I choose to forgive them and begin a cycle of kindness and compassion. Eph 4:32

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