Refer to 5–Finding Bad Memories and Healing Issues to identify trauma memories related to your kindness issues listed below.
Confess and loose/put off the following statements you identify with, along with all associated memories, unhealthy beliefs, and negative oppressive energies. It is helpful to keep a prayer journal so you can see how you have been healed.
Rejection: to refuse to accept someone or something; rebuff
Abandonment: to leave completely and finally; forsake utterly; desert
Hurt: to harm or damage in some way; cause mental distress or pain
Aggression: an unprovoked attack
Antagonism: active opposition
Destructiveness: tearing down; criticism
Roughness: harsh; rude; unmannerly
Meanness: offensive, selfish, or unaccommodating; nasty; malicious
Vengefulness: return an injury for an injury
Neglect: not care for or attend to
Selfishness: devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one’s own interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others
Criticism: to judge disapprovingly
Ostracism: banish, bar, shut out, etc.
Loose UNHEALTHY BELIEFS AND LIES—bind in the opposite
People will take advantage of me. People are too sensitive.
If they knew me, they would hate me. I don’t deserve kindness or anything else other than punishment and scorn.
Seeking kindness is like chasing my shadow. I can’t catch it no matter what I do. Unkindness, on the other hand, finds me automatically.
People who should have been kind to me weren’t. I didn’t learn to be kind to myself or others. I had lots of times when I could have been kind but I didn’t do it.
My fears are supposed to keep me safe but they seal me off from the kindness of others.
I must manipulate people into being kind to me. I need their kindness but I can’t share it with them.
KINDNESS IS… Pray and bind/put on all of the following attributes and truths:
Gentle: kindly; amiable; not severe, rough, or violent; mild
Empathetic: the identification with feelings, thoughts, or attitudes of another
Friendly: like a friend; kind; helpful
Sympathetic: enter into another person’s mental state, feelings, emotions, etc.; pity or compassion
Generous: readiness or liberality in giving
Appreciative: to be grateful or thankful for
TRUTH AND TRANSFORMATION STATEMENTS
I can be kind to all and not quarrelsome, able to teach, patient when wronged, and not resentful. 2 Tim. 2:24
As God is kind to ungrateful and evil people so can I, and my reward will be great. Luke 6:35; 1 Thes. 5:15
I can act with brotherly kindness and love. 2 Pet. 1:7
I can be kind to others, tender-hearted, and forgiving others, just as God in Christ also has forgiven me. Eph. 4:32
I will be blessed when I am kind and gracious to the needy, because it honors God, and He will repay/reward me for what I do. Prov. 14:21,31; 19:17
God is rich in mercy; because of His great love for me, He shows me the surpassing riches of His grace in His kindness to me. Eph. 2:4-7
Those who have been harsh with me were treated that way themselves. I choose to forgive them and begin a cycle of kindness and compassion. Eph 4:32