Do you have discontentment, helplessness at times, overreaction, and sometimes manipulative? If yes, you need healing for past or present self-control problems. In fact, the issues listed below create offenses in our hearts, which prevents us from being self-controlled, and loving others well.
Read through the list below. If you relate to an unhealthy belief or behavior on the list, go back to 5–Finding Painful Memories and Healing Issues to identify the related painful memories. Then, pray the prayer example for each issue. Next, lose/put off the oppressive energies and spirits attached to each painful memory. It is helpful to keep a prayer journal to track your healing.
Laziness: not eager or willing to work or exert oneself
Entitlement: deserving of special treatment with no return or responsibility
Helplessness: without power to help oneself; feeble; weak; without protection; incompetent; inefficient
Disconnectedness: to be separated; break connection
Out of control emotions: Overreactive
Insecurity: feeling more anxious than seems warranted; not feeling safe
Manipulation: manage or control by shrewd (artful, cunning; clever) use of influence for one’s own purposes or profit.
Loose UNHEALTHY BELIEFS AND LIES—bind in the opposite
I can’t do it. I’m not capable. Others should do it for me. It’s not fair. (Bind/put on: I can do all things with God’s help.)
My life wouldn’t be such a mess if I had any self-control.
No matter how many times I tried to do or not do something, it didn’t work. Why continue trying?
Lack of self-control caused me to lose what I valued most. I couldn’t make myself do the right thing, and I have been paying for it ever since.
Self-control is like an opponent you have to wrestle to the floor and never let up. As soon as I relax, the darker side takes right over.
I can stop ___ any time I want. I just don’t want to!
People pay attention when I rant and rave. I don’t control myself; I control them.
People are pathetic when they can’t control themselves. When I choose excess, it is a choice, not a weakness in my character.
SELF-CONTROL IS… Pray and bind/put on all of the following attributes and truths:
Not reactive: In control of oneself, or of one’s own emotions, desires, actions, etc.
Diligent: constant and earnest effort to accomplish what is undertaken; persistent exertion of body or mind
Moderate: avoidance of excesses or extremes
Feeling supported: favored and approved; encouraged; helped; comforted
Connected: fit in; affiliated (be a member of); associated (be in a relationship with another as a companion, partner, friend, etc.)
Feeling Secure: free from fear, care, doubt, or anxiety; not worried, troubled, or apprehensive. Free from danger; safe
TRUTH AND TRANSFORMATION STATEMENTS
I can be self-controlled and resist temptation, and I can say no to ungodliness and worldly desires. Titus 2:12; Pr. 25:28
When I am self-controlled, I am temperate, worthy of respect, and sound in faith, in love, and in perseverance (I do not quit). Titus 2:2
Self-control is one of the qualities of the Christian life I am developing, along with faith, moral excellence, knowledge, perseverance, godliness, kindness, and love, which I will increase in my life so that I am not useless or ineffective nor unfruitful in the true knowledge of Christ Jesus. As long as I practice these things, I will never stumble.
2 Pet. 1:5-10
I can trust God is in control of every circumstance for my good, and not lean on my own understanding, which brings healing to my body. Prov. 3:5-8
Self-control is one aspect of the fruit of the Spirit, which is evident in my life when I walk by the Spirit and crucify my passions and evil desires daily. Gal. 5:22-25; Luke 9:23; Rom 6:6