Are you discontent, feel helpless at times, overreact, and sometimes manipulate?  If yes, you need healing for past or present self-control problems.  In fact, the negative issues listed below create offenses in your heart, that impairs your ability to be self-controlled, and love others well.

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Self-control and Maturity

The Link Between Disappointment, Resentment, and Self-control

How to be Self-controlled in What We Say (updated)

Read through the list below. If any of the negative issues, unhealthy beliefs, or behaviors on this list evokes a negative emotion, go back to 5–Finding Painful Memories and Healing Issues to identify the related painful memories.

Identify the negative beliefs you have, then prayerfully put them off.Be sure to loose/put off the oppressive energies and spirits attached to each painful memory.  It is helpful to keep a prayer journal to track your healing.

Laziness: not eager or willing to work or exert oneself.

Entitlement: deserving of special treatment with no return or responsibility.

Helplessness: without power to help oneself; feeble; weak; without protection; incompetent; inefficient.

Disconnectedness: to be separated; break connection.

Out of control emotions:  Over reactive.

Insecurity: feeling more anxious than seems warranted; not feeling safe

Manipulation: manage or control by shrewd (artful, cunning; clever) use of influence for one’s own purposes or profit.

Loose UNHEALTHY BELIEFS AND LIES and bind in the opposite

I can’t do it.  I’m not capable.  Others should do it for me.  It’s not fair. (Bind/put on:  I can do all things with God’s help.)

SELF-CONTROL ISPray and bind/put on all the following attributes and truths to your mind and heart:

Not reactive:  In control of oneself, or of one’s own emotions, desires, actions, etc.

Diligent: constant and earnest effort to accomplish what is undertaken; persistent exertion of body or mind

Moderate: avoidance of excesses or extremes

Feeling supported: favored and approved; encouraged; helped; comforted

Connected: fit in; affiliated (be a member of); associated (be in a relationship with  another as a companion, partner, friend, etc.)

Feeling Secure: free from fear, care, doubt, or anxiety; not worried, troubled, or apprehensive.  Free from danger; safe


I can be self-controlled and resist temptation, and I can say no to ungodliness and worldly desires. Titus 2:12; Pr. 25:28

When I am self-controlled, I am temperate, worthy of respect, and sound in faith, in love, and in perseverance (I do not quit).  Titus 2:2

Self-control is one quality of the Christian life I am developing, along with faith, moral excellence, knowledge, perseverance, godliness, kindness, and love.  I will increase these qualities in my life, so I am not useless  nor unfruitful in the true knowledge of Christ Jesus.  As long as I practice these things, I will never stumble.
2 Pet. 1:5-10

I can trust God is in control of every circumstance for my good, and not lean on my own understanding, which brings healing to my body.  Prov. 3:5-8

Self-control is one characteristic of the fruit of the Spirit. Self-control is evident in my life when I walk by the Spirit and crucify my passions and evil desires daily. Gal. 5:22-25; Luke 9:23; Rom 6:6

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