Are you discontent, feel helpless at times, overreact, and sometimes manipulate? If yes, you need healing for past or present self-control problems. In fact, the negative issues listed below create offenses in our heart, that prevent us from being self-controlled, and loving others well.
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Read through the list below. If any of the negative issues, unhealthy beliefs, or behaviors on this list evokes a negative emotion, go back to 5–Finding Painful Memories and Healing Issues to identify the related painful memories. Be sure to loose/put off the oppressive energies and spirits attached to each painful memory. It is helpful to keep a prayer journal to track your healing.
Laziness: not eager or willing to work or exert oneself
Entitlement: deserving of special treatment with no return or responsibility
Helplessness: without power to help oneself; feeble; weak; without protection; incompetent; inefficient
Disconnectedness: to be separated; break connection
Out of control emotions: Overreactive
Insecurity: feeling more anxious than seems warranted; not feeling safe
Manipulation: manage or control by shrewd (artful, cunning; clever) use of influence for one’s own purposes or profit.
Loose UNHEALTHY BELIEFS AND LIES—bind in the opposite
I can’t do it. I’m not capable. Others should do it for me. It’s not fair. (Bind/put on: I can do all things with God’s help.)
My life wouldn’t be such a mess if I had any self-control.
No matter how many times I tried to do or not do something, it didn’t work. Why continue trying?
Lack of self-control caused me to lose what I valued most. I couldn’t make myself do the right thing, and I have been paying for it ever since.
Self-control is like an opponent you have to wrestle to the floor and never let up. As soon as I relax, the darker side takes right over.
I can stop ___ any time I want. I just don’t want to!
People pay attention when I rant and rave. I don’t control myself; I control them.
People are pathetic when they can’t control themselves. When I choose excess, it is a choice, not a weakness in my character.
Pray and bind/put on all the following attributes and truths to your mind and heart:
Not reactive: In control of oneself, or of one’s own emotions, desires, actions, etc.
Diligent: constant and earnest effort to accomplish what is undertaken; persistent exertion of body or mind
Moderate: avoidance of excesses or extremes
Feeling supported: favored and approved; encouraged; helped; comforted
Connected: fit in; affiliated (be a member of); associated (be in a relationship with another as a companion, partner, friend, etc.)
Feeling Secure: free from fear, care, doubt, or anxiety; not worried, troubled, or apprehensive. Free from danger; safe
TRUTH AND TRANSFORMATION STATEMENTS
I can be self-controlled and resist temptation, and I can say no to ungodliness and worldly desires. Titus 2:12; Pr. 25:28
When I am self-controlled, I am temperate, worthy of respect, and sound in faith, in love, and in perseverance (I do not quit). Titus 2:2
Self-control is one quality of the Christian life I am developing, along with faith, moral excellence, knowledge, perseverance, godliness, kindness, and love. I will increase these qualities in my life, so I am not useless nor unfruitful in the true knowledge of Christ Jesus. As long as I practice these things, I will never stumble.
2 Pet. 1:5-10
I can trust God is in control of every circumstance for my good, and not lean on my own understanding, which brings healing to my body. Prov. 3:5-8
Self-control is one characteristic of the fruit of the Spirit. Self-control is evident in my life when I walk by the Spirit and crucify my passions and evil desires daily. Gal. 5:22-25; Luke 9:23; Rom 6:6