What makes a person trustworthy? Why do you need to be trustworthy? The Bible says a trustworthy person will be successful and find favor with God and others in their life. Is this something you would like? Do you want to have the favor of God, your boss, or others in authority? Proverbs 3:3&4 states, “Let not steadfast love (mercy, KJV; kindness; NAS) and faithfulness (truth) forsake you; bind (tie) them around your neck; write them on the tablet of your heart. 4) So, you will find favor and good success (understanding, KJV; good reputation/name; NIV) in the sight of God and man.”
For instance, if you were merciful and faithful to protect the confidence and reputation of those around you, then you won’t gossip or share secrets. Proverbs 11:13 states, “Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets, but he who is trustworthy (faithful, KJV) in spirit keeps a thing covered.” Do you see how gossiping or slandering not only hurts the person involved but also makes you look bad and ruins your reputation? When you talk bad about another person or lie, the one listening is wondering if you also talk bad about them, so they will not trust you. Also, consider Proverbs 14:22, which states, “Do not those who think (plot, devise) evil go astray? But mercy (kindness, love) and truth shall be to those who think of (devise, plot) good.” (MKJV). Do you know people who have gone astray because they thought evil. Thoughts that harm others or themselves. Notice, how you think determines if you do evil or good. If you think truthful and good thoughts, you feel good. If you feel good, then you believe good things. If you believe you are to be faithful and trustworthy, then you will act according to those good beliefs. The same progression applies to evil thoughts, which lead you astray. On the other hand, good thoughts lead to love and truth. I have written many posts on the power of thoughts; I encourage you to read them here.
The end of Proverbs 3:3b says to “bind (tie) them around your neck; write them on the tablet of your heart.” If you put something around your neck, you won’t forget it, and if you write something down and memorize it, you will live by it. The thoughts and beliefs in your mind and heart dictate how you speak and act.
In Pt. 1: Forsaken? Betrayed? How to trust again, I covered how to heal broken trust and offenses from when you felt betrayed and forsaken by someone. In Pt. 2: Why You Can and Cannot Trust God, I explain how you can trust God and why you don’t trust Him. This post exposes areas where someone may not be trustworthy and how to be free from the guilt of not being faithful.
A person who is trustworthy shows the love and faithfulness of God to others. To be faithful is to be reliable, trusted, or believed. Rather than being worked up over other people’s failures, I want to look at how I have failed because I can only change myself. Can others say you can be trusted and do they have confidence you are telling the truth and are dependable? Rate yourself, how you think other people would rate you: 1-10 (1 being the lowest score).
____ Honest: you do not lie (white lies or exaggeration), cheat, or steal.
____ Dependable: you keep your word and people can rely on you.
____ Faithful: people can trust and depend on you.
____ Loyal: you are faithful to a person, church, government, work, cause, duty, etc.
____ Reliable: people can depend on you to keep your word because you have integrity.
____ Fidelity: you are faithful and devoted to your obligations or vows and you are loyal.
____ Submissive: you are able to yield to the actions, control, and power of those in authority.
If you scored 1-7 in one or more areas in the list above. Do the following for each area you scored low in to transform your life in that area.
- Ask God to show you the earliest memory of when you failed in that area.
- Ask the Holy Spirit to remove the negative stress-energy from that memory and forgive yourself or someone else.
- Pray to loose the power of the memory so it does not control your feelings and actions.
- Loose all the unhealthy beliefs created by the painful memory (ies) being healed.
- Bind in the truth of God’s Word, and the positive actions that you are honest, loyal, reliable, faithful, dependable, and submissive.
- If you feel guilt, ask God to remove the guilt related to the time you have lied or were unfaithful.
- Do this for all memories associated with the area you scored low in.
- Also, ask God to show you the painful memories where others have not been faithful or trustworthy to you. See Pt. 1: Forsaken? Betrayed? How to trust again to heal those memories.
Guilt keeps you in bondage to your failures and sins. God showed me how guilt from my sins, kept me from loving myself, which caused me to not love others. I write about how to be free from guilt in the following posts:
To find favor with God and those you associate with, be kind, merciful, faithful, and truthful. To be successful and understanding, seek God to heal the painful memories that control your ability to be faithful and truthful. Think good and truthful things to be faithful and trustworthy.