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How Wise People Fast

What is fasting and how do wise people fast? How often should we fast? People fast differently and for different reasons. It is popular now to do intermittent fasting to lose weight and improve your health. Some churches do the Daniel fast. Some people do juice fasts. There are many kinds of fasts. The people in the Old Testament fasted when they wanted a message from God (Judges 20:26-27; 2Chronicles 20:3). They also fasted in repentance when they sinned against God (1 Samuel 7:6 and Jonah 3:4-8). Most of the fasting accounts in the Old Testament were out of sorrow and to hear from God. Biblical fasting is humbling yourself before God. This is the fasting Jesus is referring to. Jesus instructs us in Matthew 6:16-18 not to be noticed by others when we fast.

¹⁶“And when you fast, do not look gloomy like the hypocrites, for they disfigure their faces that their fasting may be seen by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward. ¹⁷But when you fast, anoint your head and wash your face, ¹⁸that your fasting may not be seen by others but by your Father who is in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you.”

Why do you think Jesus wants us to fast in secret? Do you think it was because the religious people fasted to show a piousness that was not authentic? If biblical fasting is humbly coming before God, then fasting to be noticed is motivated by pride. Since humility is an attribute of a wise person, then a wise person does not display they are fasting.

Jesus is the Word in the flesh, and He knew what Isaiah wrote, and so did the Pharisees. Isaiah defines what true fasting is NOT in Isaiah 58:3-4, he says, “‘Why have we fasted, and you see it not? Why have we humbled ourselves, and you take no knowledge of it?’ Behold, in the day of your fast you seek your own pleasure, and oppress all your workers. ⁴Behold, you fast only to quarrel and to fight and to hit with a wicked fist. Fasting like yours this day will not make your voice to be heard on high.”

Isaiah 58:6-10 defines true fasting:

⁶“Is not this the fast that I choose: to loose the bonds of wickedness, to undo the straps of the yoke, to let the oppressed go free, and to break every yoke?” (Fasting is seeking freedom from the control of sinful actions in our lives.)

^7”Is it not to share your bread with the hungry and bring the homeless poor into your house; when you see the naked, to cover him, and not to hide yourself from your own flesh?” (True fasting is humbly laying your fleshly, selfish desires aside and being compassionate with the poor and meeting their needs.)

^8”Then shall your light break forth like the dawn, and your healing shall spring up speedily; your righteousness shall go before you; the glory of the LORD shall be your rear guard.” (When we humble ourselves before God and repent of our sins and put away our fleshly, selfish desires, then God will reward us.)

^9”Then you shall call, and the LORD will answer; you shall cry, and he will say, ‘Here I am.’ If you take away the yoke from your midst, the pointing of the finger, and speaking wickedness, ¹⁰if you pour yourself out for the hungry and satisfy the desire of the afflicted, then shall your light rise in the darkness and your gloom be as the noonday.” (Does your fasting reflect this kind of fasting? Do you really want to hear from God and have His joy?)

Conclusion

When we fast in repentance and show compassion for the oppressed, then Isaiah 58:11 tells us, “And the LORD will guide you continually and satisfy your desire in scorched places and make your bones strong; and you shall be like a watered garden, like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail.” Do you want God’s continual guidance, healing, and prosperity in your life? Then biblical fasting needs to be done in secret and as described above. This type of fasting is beneficial when you read the short transformation book posted on my website, to seek God to show you areas He wants to transform in your life. 1–Healing Begins by Transforming Painful Memories.

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HOW WISE PEOPLE PRAY

Do you like to be accepted and validated? We all want to be recognized and valued by others. Why? Do you also desire to please your Heavenly Father and get His approval? In the last post, Jesus instructed us to be secretive about what we give and to whom, even your other hand should not know. If you desire recognition from others when you do good, then you will miss the Heavenly Father’s reward. In this post, Jesus instructs us how to pray to receive a reward from our Heavenly Father who sees you and knows what you need before you ask.

1. Pray in secret.

Jesus tells us in Matthew 6:5-6, “And when you pray, you must not be like the hypocrites. For they love to stand and pray in the synagogues and at the street corners, that they may be seen by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward. ⁶But when you pray, go into your room and shut the door and pray to your Father who is in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you.”

First, what is a hypocrite? According to Dictionary.com (2023), a hypocrite is a person who pretends to have virtues, moral or religious beliefs, principles, etc., that they do not actually possess, especially a person whose actions belie stated beliefs. If we were to apply this definition to the verses above, someone who prays to be noticed does not have a genuine relationship with God. I struggle to pray in front of people because of verse six. I feel that prayer is an intimate talk with God and that when I pray in public, it is superficial and what the group would expect me to pray.

2. Keep prayer simple.

Jesus says the following in Matthew 6:7-8, “And when you pray, do not heap up empty phrases as the Gentiles do, for they think that they will be heard for their many words. ⁸Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask him.”

Do you admire people who pray long flowy prayers with no depth? Or repeat a phrase or several phrases over and over as if God will take notice? Take a moment and think about your prayers. Do you say the same shallow prayer every day? I wrote a prayer booklet with one month of prayers that come from the Bible. The Bible says when we pray according to God’s will, then He hears us (1 John 5:14). We know that God’s Word is His will. Check out these prayers on the page called Who God is — Daily A-C-T-S Prayers. I will send you this prayer booklet if you contact me and ask for it.

These verses remind me of Jesus’s parable about the end result of the tax collector’s prayer of repentance and the Pharisee’s prideful prayer in Luke 18:9-14.

How wonderful that God knows what we need before we ask. Isaiah 65:24 states, “Before they call, I will answer; while they are yet speaking, I will hear.” Not only does God know what we need, but wants to supply our needs according to His abundant riches when we ask (Phil 4:19). And Ephesians 3:20 says that God will “do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us.” I forget this truth and live as a spiritual pauper. How about you?

3. Pray the Lord’s Prayer in Matthew 6:9-12.

Pray then like this: “Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name.

¹⁰Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.

¹¹Give us this day our daily bread, ¹²and forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors.

¹³And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Read each phrase and personalize it. So often we say this prayer but don’t give much thought to what the prayer really means. Please read my post on this prayer model called HOW TO PRAY USING THE LORD’S PRAYER AS A MODEL.

4. Humbly forgive those who hurt or offended you.

Jesus explains in Matthew 6:14-15, “For if you forgive others their trespasses [sins against you], your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” I wish more people would take this instruction more seriously than they do. So many Christian people will not forgive but live angry, miserable lives. What is worse is the consequence of our heavenly Father not forgiving us. When we stand before God on the day of judgment and our sins are not forgiven, He will not let us into heaven because He is holy. This reminds me of the parable about the unforgiving servant in Matthew 18:21-35 and what our heavenly Father will do to us.

Please read my post called WHY MUST YOU FORGIVE? In summary:

1. Forgiveness frees you to experience love and joy.

2. Forgiveness protects you from the devil’s devices.

3. Forgiveness heals your mind, emotions, and body.

4. Forgiving is obeying God.

Conclusion

Why do wise people pray? First, wise people are humble and admit they are sinners in need of forgiveness. Second, wise people admit they need God to meet their needs and seek Him. Third, a wise person desires to be righteous and please God by obeying Him. I will end by asking you to read Psalm 34:12-19.

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Wise People Do Not Seek Praise

Do you like to be praised and noticed for the things you do? If we were honest, we like to be appreciated and praised. The root cause is feeling insecure and needing praise to feel accepted and validated. Or, do you know someone who makes sure they let you know how great they are and the good things they do? Do you think they have a self-centered need for people’s approval to feel good about themselves?

Jesus said that a wise person is the one who does what He teaches. In this next lesson, you will learn how to get our approval and reward from our Father in Heaven.

In Matthew 6:1-4, Jesus tells us, “Beware of practicing your righteousness before other people in order to be seen by them, for then you will have no reward from your Father who is in heaven.

²“Thus, when you give to the needy, sound no trumpet before you, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may be praised by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward.

³But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, ⁴so that your giving may be in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you.”

This passage begins with the word “beware,” which means to be careful or cautious. Why would Jesus begin with the warning to be careful? He knows we struggle with self-centered pride that desires human approval. It is tempting to make sure others notice our good works or right living to feel acceptance from people we admire. Wise people fear God and seek to obey and please Him, not people. Wise people care more about God’s approval than man’s approval.

What are some things we do to practice our righteousness before people? The second verse answers this question. The words “thus, or “so when” are followed by an action. For example, “Thus, when you give to the needy.” It is okay if people see you giving, but when you announce it to receive praise or compare yourself to what others give, that is what Jesus warns us not to do. Jesus said in Matthew 5:16, “In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.”

Why is giving to the needy a work of faith?

James 2:14-18 explains, “What good is it, my brothers, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can that faith save him? ¹⁵If a brother or sister is poorly clothed and lacking in daily food, ¹⁶and one of you says to them, “Go in peace, be warmed and filled,” without giving them the things needed for the body, what good is that? ¹⁷So also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead. ¹⁸But someone will say, “You have faith and I have works.” Show me your faith apart from your works, and I will show you my faith by my works.” Giving to the poor also shows that you are a follower of Jesus Christ. Mark10:21 states, “And Jesus, looking at him, loved him, and said to him, ‘You lack one thing: go, sell all that you have and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow me.’” Again, Jesus is testing the motivation of the man’s heart, which He already knew. Our reward will be the treasure in heaven.

Examine your motive for giving. If public notice is the motivating factor, then it is your only reward. Our motivation for giving to those in need should be out of love. 1John 3:10 tells us, “By this it is evident who are the children of God, and who are the children of the devil: whoever does not practice righteousness is not of God, nor is the one who does not love his brother.” Loving others is evidence that we love God. 1John 5:2-3 states, “By this we know that we love the children of God, when we love God and obey his commandments. ³For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments. And his commandments are not burdensome.”

Conclusion

God’s reward for the good we do is immeasurable. Luke 6:38 states, “Give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.” Also consider what King Solomon said in Proverbs 19:17, “Whoever is generous to the poor lends to the LORD, and he will repay him for his deed.” Proverbs 11:24, “One gives freely, yet grows all the richer; another withholds what he should give, and only suffers want.” Proverbs 11:25, “Whoever brings blessing will be enriched, and one who waters will himself be watered.”

I pray God blesses you as you practice righteousness to gain His reward.

Wise People Love Those Who Hate Them

Do you have an enemy or adversary? I personally can’t identify any one person as my opponent. Some people may name their in-laws or maybe a neighbor or co-worker. Dictionary.com (2023) says that an enemy is a person who feels hatred for, fosters harmful designs against, or engages in antagonistic (unfriendly, hostile) activities against another. At this time in history, if you actively oppose the leftist democrat agenda, you will get hostility and hatred. You may even get persecuted if you express your Christian beliefs. Love sets a Christian apart from the rest of the world. So, Jesus’ teaching in today’s post can be applied by everyone.

Jesus Says to Love Your Enemies

Matthew 5:43-45 states, “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ ⁴⁴But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, (KJV says, But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you) ⁴⁵so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven. For he makes his sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust.” This part of Jesus’ sermon is very challenging because our sinful flesh cannot love those who hate us. It does not feel natural to bless someone who is cursing us or to pray for those persecuting us. This kind of love is a matter of our will and is not based on feelings. This type of love shows patience, kindness, goodwill, humility, gentleness, forgiveness, and so on towards those who do us harm or want to. This form of love comes from the divine life of Christ in us through the Holy Spirit (Rom. 5:5). So, if God cares for the evil and good, the just and unjust, so can we. Loving your enemies is a matter of submission to God. The devil wants us to submit to him and hate, destroy, and steal (John 10:10). James 4:7 states, “Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.”

How do we love our enemies?

Romans 12:19-20 states, Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” ²⁰To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.”

Dr. Luke also records Jesus’s first sermon in chapter 6. I encourage you to read Dr. Luke’s written account. Let’s meditate on the following passage from this chapter. Luke 6:35-36 states, “But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return, and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, for he is kind to the ungrateful and the evil. ³⁶Be merciful, even as your Father is merciful.” Mercy is not giving what the other person deserves. To be compassionate toward the lost (without a savior) is showing mercy. The people we consider our enemies or those persecuting us do not know Christ as their Lord and Savior and are destined for hell, which is why we need to pray for them and show them mercy.

Jesus continues in Matthew 5:46-47, “For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? ⁴⁷And if you greet only your brothers, what more are you doing than others? Do not even the Gentiles do the same?” The love described in these verses does not distinguish a righteous Christian from a worldly person. Loving those who love you does not require divine power or grace. Do you find it interesting that we will receive a reward when we love those who persecute or hurt us?

Can we be perfect as our heavenly Father?

Matthew 5:48 states, “You therefore must be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.” This sounds impossible, but with God’s divine power in us, we can be perfect as we obey Jesus’s teachings. The word “perfect,” in Greek commonly means “finished, complete, pure, holy.” The person who is perfect and holy fears God by turning from evil and doing good. When God purifies our hearts and we forgive those who hurt us, then we can perfectly love our enemies. 2Peter 1:3-4 states, “His divine power has granted to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of him who called us to his own glory and excellence, ⁴by which he has granted to us his precious and very great promises, so that through them you may become partakers of the divine nature, having escaped from the corruption that is in the world because of sinful desire.”

Conclusion

Do you find it hard to bless and do good to someone who hates you or hurts you? If you do, ask God to remove the resentment or bitterness created when you were offended by the hurtful things the person has done to you. Next, ask God to heal the painful memories and give you the grace to forgive them. Then, pray for God’s divine power to show Christ-like love and mercy toward them. You know when God heals your emotions and wounded soul when you can be thankful and speak well of the person who hurt you or despitefully used you. To learn more about this, read my online book 1–Healing Begins by Transforming Painful Memories.

May God bless you richly this week.

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Wise People Give to Beggars and Borrowers

Jesus said that “Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock” (Matthew 7:24). The next teaching in Jesus’s first sermon is difficult for many people, including myself. I am challenged to evaluate whether I value people as Jesus values them and do I value my possession more than people in need.

Give to the one who begs from you, and do not refuse the one who would borrow from you. –Matthew 5:42

The New American Standard Version and New International Version says, “Give to him [the one] who asks of you, and do not turn away from him [the one] who wants to borrow from you.” New King James says, “Give to him who asks you, and from him who wants to borrow from you do not turn away.”

In the cities, you often face many panhandlers who beg for money, and we think it is to buy drugs and alcohol but ask them what necessities they need and provide them. God sees all things, and He knows all things. Those who are very rich may have a problem with this teaching. This instruction is especially hard for prideful people who look down on people who are in need as if it is their fault, which it may be. Regardless of why someone needs to ask for help, it is loving your neighbor to help them with their needs. Remember that when you do anything for someone in need, you are doing it unto Jesus (Matthew 25:35-45). And, what you sow, you will reap. In Luke 6:38, Jesus says, “Give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.” Everything that we have is from God, and He is our provider. So giving to someone who asks or wants to borrow is a test of our faith in God’s provision for us.

Is there a limit on how much you can give?

I feel like I should have limits on how much I give, or someone could beg for or borrow all that I have, which would leave me with nothing, then I would have to beg and borrow. Do I trust God to provide? And if you give to one organization, soon you are on a mailing list and get many other organizations asking for money. Is it wise to give to every organization that asks for funds on the radio and TV? Since Jesus dealt with individuals, this verse is about actual people who are in need. For example, my teenage son went on a mission trip, so he asked people to support him. This is a worthy endeavor and people were happy to help him. Unfortunately, there are many scammers that go from church to church asking for money and saying they are in need. God knows, so ask Him what you should do. If He says to give, then it may be a test of your faith.

I am reminded of the story Jesus told in Luke 11:5-8 about the man whose friend came at midnight, and he didn’t have food to give his friend. He knocks on his neighbor’s door to ask for food. The neighbor would not get up, but he kept knocking until the neighbor got up to give him what he asked. You may be the one that God uses to provide for someone who is in need and who prayed for God to help them.

Do you value others and what Jesus values more than yourself?

Is the kingdom of God more important than your wealth? Do you trust God to provide for you when you help others in need? Jesus also instructed people in Luke 12:32-34 the following, “Fear not, little flock, for it is your Father’s good pleasure to give you the kingdom. ³³Sell your possessions, and give to the needy. Provide yourselves with moneybags that do not grow old, with a treasure in the heavens that does not fail, where no thief approaches and no moth destroys. ³⁴For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.” Where is your treasure? Is it here on Earth or in Heaven? This scripture passage is a test of our faith and trust. Prayerfully reflect on where your heart is focused. Jesus’ teachings focus on the condition of our hearts. Remember, 1John 2:17 states, “And the world is passing away along with its desires, but whoever does the will of God abides forever.”

Why is it wise to give to the one who begs and not refuse the one who wants to borrow from you? It is the will of God. Doing God’s will reveals the condition of your heart. It is foolish to hold on to your possessions and not care for those in need because then you will not receive the kingdom of God (Luke 12:32). I did not know where God was going to lead me with this post. I am blessed and challenged by what God has revealed. I hope you are challenged to do God’s will and be wise. Storing up our treasure in heaven and receiving the kingdom of God is far more desirable than having possessions, would you not agree?

God bless you.

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Wise People Give Extra

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Wise People Give Extra

When you give more than is required to give, it makes the other person feel you genuinely care. When someone realizes you care, then they may reciprocate the feeling but don’t expect it. When you give extra, it often softens the heart of the other person. For example, if your boss asks you to work overtime, and you work more hours than asked, this may soften your boss’s heart, and they will remember your generosity. Jesus gives the following guidelines in Matthew 5:40-41.

⁴⁰And if anyone would sue you and take your tunic, let him have your cloak as well. –Matthew 5:40

We obviously don’t own a tunic and cloak that Jesus references. Albert Barnes writes in his commentary the following. “The Jews wore two principal garments, an interior and an exterior. The interior, here called the ‘coat,’ or the tunic, was made commonly of linen, and encircled the whole body, extending down to the knees. The coat, or tunic, was extended to the neck and had long or short sleeves. Over this was commonly worn an outer garment, here called a ‘cloak,’ or mantle.” In the post called A Wise Perso n Appeals to Their Accuser, Jesus said to make peace before you get to court with someone who wants to sue you for a wrong. Jesus says in this verse to not only give what they ask, but also give extra.

⁴¹And if anyone forces you to go one mile, go with him two miles. –Matthew 5:41

To force someone to go a mile was a well-known event in Jesus’s day. One scenario was if the ruler wanted to deliver a message throughout the kingdom, he would send it by people on horses, boats, ships, etc., much like the pony express of the wild west. For example, King Cyrus stationed horsemen at intervals on all the public highways. These messengers could compel any person whom they might need to help with the quick transmission of the king’s commandments. Another scenario was when someone in authority compels someone to do something for him. In the same respect, the soldiers compelled Simon of Cyrene to carry the cross for Jesus. Luke 23:26 tells us, “And as they led him [Jesus] away, they seized one Simon of Cyrene, who was coming in from the country, and laid on him the cross, to carry it behind Jesus.” So, when someone asks you to do something, go the extra mile, even if you don’t want to.

Jesus is our Example

Jesus is our example of what it means to give extra. Jesus first gave up his royal life in heaven where there was no suffering. He came to earth to experience our suffering. Hebrews 4:15 states, “For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin.” And Hebrews 2:18 states, “For because he himself has suffered when tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted.” Then He went the extra mile for us and willingly gave His life for us, so we can have forgiveness for our sins and to reconcile us to His Father. Now we have the hope of eternal life. Giving more than asked and going the extra mile shows humility and submission. Jesus is our example.

So why is giving more than asked wise to do?

Remember that a wise person shows wisdom in meekness and doing good. Have you ever seen a self-centered, prideful person give more than asked? Most often, prideful people don’t give anything at all and often will argue with you if you even ask. Pridefulness creates tension and conflict, which is not wise at all because it creates resentment and resistance. It is wise to give extra because it softens the heart of the one who asks, and it creates peace and harmony. Can you see how softening a person’s heart is wise? The parable of the Good Samaritan is an example of giving extra and going the extra mile. This was an example of how to love your neighbor, which is a command of God.

You can easily do a test of Jesus’ instructions. Next time your spouse asked you to do something, do extra and see what happens. If you don’t want to do extra and resent doing anything your spouse asks, check for a prideful spirit, which is very destructive. Go the extra mile for your spouse, children, or boss, and see how their attitude and your relationships change for the better.

May God bless you as you grow in wisdom.

Joyce

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Wise People Do Not Retaliate.

Which is more natural to do when someone hurts you? Do you forgive and show love when someone attacks you? Or if someone hurts you, do you lash out in anger or with other forms of retaliation? Our self-centered, sinful nature directs our minds to pay someone back for hurting us. But, if you yield your mind to the Spirit, then you will naturally forgive and do what is good to those who offend you. Then again, we don’t live in a perfect world. We naturally want to set up boundaries for people who are destructive in what they say and do. People don’t realize how hurtful they are because their resentment triggers their responses. Some people may have an evil spirit that is intent on hurting others. Boundaries are wise to protect from abusive harm. What does Jesus say we should do?

Jesus tells us in Matthew 5:38-39, “You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.’ ³⁹But I say to you, Do not resist the one who is evil. But if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also.”

This teaching is hard to comprehend with our carnal minds. God’s love in us and His goodness transcends evil and our desire to retaliate. Jesus’s love for mankind gave Him the strength to be struck and beaten for us. When He was arrested and crucified, Jesus did not fight back or resist. Rather, He asked His Father in Heaven to forgive them before He died for them (Luke 23:34). Following Jesus’ example, we should not resist evil people because they don’t know how to love and be good. We, too, can choose to love and forgive those who have wronged us. But you don’t have to hang out with destructive people unless God has called you to do so. The story of David Wilkerson comes to mind. He was a country preacher from Philipsburg, PA that felt God calling him to go to New York City to share the gospel with the gangs in New York City. You can read his story in the Cross and the Switch Blade. Teen Challenge came out of that ministry, which is still helping drug addicts and alcoholics be free through Jesus.

The website commentary Got Questions (2023) says the following. It’s important to note that by saying, “Do not resist an evil person,” Jesus is not requiring us to be pacifists or to never resist evil forces. In fact, James 4:7 and 1 Peter 5:9 command us to resist the devil and his evil practices. If someone threatens or attacks you or your loved one, it’s not wrong to take up a defense or to seek justice against the wrongdoer. What Jesus requires by commanding us not to resist an evil person is to not retaliate. We do not respond in kind, and we shouldn’t “get even.” Instead of seeking revenge, Jesus tells us we should “turn the other cheek.” In other words, we should adopt an attitude of humility and seek to be peaceful with those who have wronged us.”

The Apostle Paul explains how to deal with those that do evil in Romans 12:17-21.

Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all.

¹⁸If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.

¹⁹Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.”

²⁰To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.”

²¹Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.

The Apostle Peter also encouraged his readers not to repay evil for evil in 1Peter 3:8-12.

“Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind.

⁹Do not repay evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary, bless, for to this you were called, that you may obtain a blessing.”

¹⁰For “Whoever desires to love life and see good days, let him keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking deceit; ¹¹let him turn away from evil and do good; let him seek peace and pursue it.

¹²For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous, and his ears are open to their prayer. But the face of the Lord is against those who do evil.”

1Thesalonians 5:15 states, “See that no one repays anyone evil for evil, but always seek to do good to one another and to everyone.”

Proverbs 17:13 states, “If anyone returns evil for good, evil will not depart from his house.”

James 3:13 states. “Who is wise and understanding among you? By his good conduct let him show his works in the meekness of wisdom.”

Conclusion

Jesus’s instructions to not resist the one who is evil and to turn the other cheek is tough to do. With God’s help and putting on humility with love, we can forgive and bless those who do us evil. When we feel offended and we want to repay evil to the one who offended us, then capture your thoughts, give them to God, forgive, then seek peace and do good in return. If someone has done evil against you in your past, you can heal those memories to stop the resentment from controlling your reactions. To learn how, read my online book here.

Part 1: How to Achieve Genuine Goodness?

Part 2: How to Overcome Evil with Good.

WHY MUST YOU FORGIVE

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Wise People Keep Their Word

Have you ever had to take the witness stand in a court of law or seen someone take the witness stand? You are supposed to put your hand on the Bible and swear to tell the truth and nothing but the truth? I thought this was okay and would do what I was told. I met a man who said that it was against his religious belief to swear by the Bible. He said that promising to tell the truth is enough. I was curious about this, so I asked him what he meant. He told me about this passage in Matthew. Let’s look at what Jesus says about keeping our promises.

Matthew 5:33-37 (NIV)

“Again, you have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ‘Do not break your oath, but keep the oaths you have made to the Lord.’ An oath is a promise, which is something you give your word to do.

³⁴But I say to you, Do not swear [take an oath] at all, either by heaven, for it is the throne of God, ³⁵or by the earth, for it is his footstool, or by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the great King.

³⁶And do not swear [take an oath] by your head, for you cannot make even one hair white or black.

³⁷Simply let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes’ or your ‘No’ be ‘No’; anything beyond this comes from the evil one [Satan].”

James 5:12 also tells us the same thing, “But above all, my brothers, do not swear, either by heaven or by earth or by any other oath, but let your “yes” be yes and your “no” be no, so that you may not fall under condemnation.” Oaths, promises, and contracts should obligate us to keep our word, especially when it is tempting not to. Jesus was not condemning all forms of promises, contracts, or agreements. But was speaking of a spontaneous vow made when a person says, “I promise I will do (whatever).” Or, “If you do (whatever) I will do (whatever).” It does not mean Jesus’s teaching in this passage discourages careful, thought-out promises, such as wedding vows or a legal contract.

The Consequence of Rash Vows

Making rash vows can have devastating consequences, which is why Jesus said not to make vows or oaths. The story of Jephthah illustrates the foolishness of making vows without understanding the consequences. Before leading the Israelites into battle against the Ammonites, Jephthah—described as a mighty man of valor—made a rash vow that he would give to the Lord whoever first came out of doors to meet him if he returned home as the victor. When the Lord granted him victory, the one who came out to meet him was his daughter. Jephthah remembered his vow and offered her to the Lord (Judges 11:29–40). Jephthah was so sorrowful because he loved his daughter.

Joshua made another foolish oath when he swore not to attack the Gibeonites. After Joshua conquered Jericho, the men of Gibeon tricked Joshua into making a treaty with them, which is the same as an oath. Joshua did not seek the Lord’s guidance and wisdom concerning the treaty. When they found out they were tricked into making the agreement, this is what Joshua said in Joshua 9:20 (NIV) “This is what we will do to them: We will let them live, so that God’s wrath will not fall on us for breaking the oath we swore to them.” See Joshua 9:3-21 to read the entire account. The oaths or promises we make are serious to God, and He will cause us to suffer the consequence if we don’t keep our word, so be wise about what you promise to do.

Herod made a foolish vow because he was so full of himself. Matthew 14:6-7 states, “But when Herod’s birthday came, the daughter of Herodias danced before the company and pleased Herod, ⁷so that he promised with an oath to give her whatever she might ask.” What she asked for made Herod very sad and afraid. You can read this account in Matthew 14:1-12.

When We Make Oaths?

When you make an oath, make sure you are being led by the Holy Spirit and not your flesh. Psalm 15:4 describes a righteous person as one “who keeps an oath even when it hurts and does not change their mind.” Oaths, vows, and promises are binding, even when spoken frivolously or privately, as part of everyday conversation. A promise is a promise, and there is no loophole in God’s eyes to allow a person to renege on an oath, which includes marriage vows. It is so sad that so many people, including myself, break our promise to love and cherish our spouse till death do us part, then get divorced. The consequences are many when we break our marriage vows. In my case, my first husband broke his vow to me.

When you promise something, you need to let your “yes” be “yes.” Be very careful when disciplining your children, that you don’t say how you are going to punish them for their poor behavior and then can’t do it, or don’t do it. This will break your children’s trust in you, which will destroy your authority to speak into their lives.

If a child asks a parent for a promise, the parent should hear it as an indictment, since it reveals that the child has learned they cannot quite trust their mother’s or father’s word. Their “yes” has not always meant “yes”. Ideally, a parent’s word should be so reliable that the child never thinks of guarantees. Indeed, every follower of Jesus Christ should aim to be so reliable that no one asks them for promises. To build trust, you need to keep the promises you make.

The following are Scripture passages explaining the expectations and consequences of making vows or oaths.

If you make a vow to the LORD your God, you shall not delay fulfilling it, for the LORD your God will surely require it of you, and you will be guilty of sin. –Deuteronomy 23:21

If a man vows a vow to the LORD, or swears an oath to bind himself by a pledge, he shall not break his word. He shall do according to all that proceeds out of his mouth. –Numbers 30:2

You shall not swear by my name falsely, and so profane the name of your God: I am the LORD. –Leviticus 19:12

“You shall not take the name of the LORD your God in vain, for the LORD will not hold him guiltless who takes his name in vain.” – Exodus 20:7

God’s Grace When We Swear Falsely

The story of Peter denying Jesus is the most incredible example of God’s grace and love for Peter and for us. What amazes me is that Jesus knew Peter was going to deny Him three times before the rooster crows. Jesus knows our every thought and action, and He will help us do what is right if we humbly ask (James 4:6).

Peter proudly declared in Mark 14:31, “’Even if I have to die with you, I will never disown you.’ And all the others said the same.” It wasn’t long before Peter swears, he didn’t know Jesus, according to Mark 14:70-71, “But again he denied it. And after a little while the bystanders again said to Peter, “Certainly you are one of them, for you are a Galilean.” ⁷¹But he began to invoke a curse on himself and to swear, “I do not know this man of whom you speak.” The rooster crows, just as Jesus said it would, and Peter realizes what he had done and weeps bitterly, then runs away. I am sure he feels shame, wouldn’t you? Then, Jesus comes to Peter after he had risen from the dead and restored Peter’s spirit by asking him three times if Peter loved him. Do you love Jesus? We will all make vows we don’t or can’t keep, but God is rich in mercy and will give us grace.

May God bless you richly.

Pt. 1: Forsaken? Betrayed? How to Trust Again.

A Wise Person Controls Defiling Thoughts

A Wise Person Appeals to Their Accuser

A Wise Person Controls Defiling Thoughts

A wise person can control defiling thoughts and does not lust, knowing that a lustful intent leads to adultery. Lustful thoughts can be any desire for something other than God’s best for you. In this post, you will learn the progression of lustful desires and how it leads to adultery between two married persons and between you and God.

Matthew 5:27, “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’”

The command to not commit adultery is the seventh command of the 10 Commandments God gave to Moses. The Bible says a lot about adultery. The English Standard version has 35 verses about adultery. When someone makes a marriage commitment to another person and then is unfaithful to them, that is adultery. When someone is unfaithful to God after making a commitment, He considers them an adulterer. Adultery begins in the mind, which is why we need to be mindful of our thoughts and take wrong thoughts captive and make them obedient to Jesus (2Cor. 10:5). You can learn more from a series of posts about thoughts and the power of thoughts.

We can also be unfaithful to God by trusting in idols, which God calls adultery (Jer. 3:6-10). In fact, the book of Hosea was about God’s love for His people and calling them out of adultery with idols. In Proverbs 6:32, King Solomon tells us, “He who commits adultery lacks sense; he who does it destroys himself.” Imagine that? Why does adultery destroy you?

The Apostle Paul explained that when we obey and love our neighbor and God, then we will keep all the commandments (Romans 13:9 and John 14:15). James wrote the following in James 4:4, “You adulterous people! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God.” You can learn more from my series of posts on idolatry, which you will find helpful.

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Matthew 5:28, “But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

Lust begins when we look at something that entices and tempts us to strongly desire something. I won’t explain lust in this post because we all know what it is and its power over our thoughts. When you get a lustful thought, you have two choices. One, entertain it and follow your fleshly desires, or second, capture it by confessing it (1 John 1:9), and then putting it off (Col 3:5) and putting on the mind of Christ (Rom. 13:14). Verbally, in prayer, say, “I take this wrong thought captive, and I put it out of my mind in Jesus’ name, and I put on the mind of Jesus Christ. Thank you, Lord, for purifying my mind.” If you entertain lustful thoughts, then they become an adulterous sin in your mind. When that happens, confess your sin and seek God’s forgiveness, and He promises to cleanse you from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9).

You may have a stronghold of lust from an addiction to pornography or going to strip clubs, and so on. If this is the case, you will need to ask God to remove the unclean spirit of lust from your mind. Next, ask God to forgive you for all the times you viewed porn, which removes the power of those memories. Begin with your earliest memory of when you were first exposed to porn. Your earliest memory is when you attracted the unclean spirit of lust. You may need to ask God to remove the porn curse or sinful habit passed down from the generations before you. Ask God to give you a clean heart and a clear conscience because what God has forgiven, He has forgotten. Ask God to remove the unclean spirit of guilt because what God has cleansed is clean. Unfortunately, the temptation to lust is all around us as it was in Jesus’s day. Don’t take a second look, and so on. Commit to not defiling yourself again. Just like Daniel, who made a commitment to not defile himself with the king’s food but ate vegetables and drank water instead. God blessed him with great wisdom and prominence in the government. God allowed Daniel to serve in leadership for four Kings.

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Matthew 5:29-30, “If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be thrown into hell. ³⁰And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body go into hell.”

Jesus uses hyperbole in this verse, which means an extravagant statement or assertion not intended to be understood literally. Jesus means we are to remove the source of temptation. First, remove yourself from the situation that is tempting you to lust. For example, if the neighbor woman is mowing her lawn in her skimpy bikini, you do not have to watch her. If that same woman invites you in for a drink, you do not go in. If you know a magazine rack contains tempting pictures, do not go past the magazine rack, and avoid places that tempt you to lust. Second, remove whatever is causing you to lust in your home, such as the internet, books, movies, etc.

Lust tempts you to be unfaithful and commit adultery, then when you give in to the temptation, it may lead to divorce. You may also lust after possessions, which tempts you to practice greed and covetousness, which is idolatry, and a sin of unfaithfulness to God. (Col. 3:5). James 1:14-15 states, “But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. ¹⁵Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death.” That death could be of your marriage, a close relationship, your reputation, your job, and so on.

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Matthew 5:31-32, “It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ ³²But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.”

Divorce is not God’s plan for anyone. So, eliminate lustful thoughts for someone other than your spouse, so your lustful thoughts do not lead you to be unfaithful and become sexually immoral. Set up the boundaries you need to remain pure. Strive for holiness as described in 2Cornithians 7:1, “Since we have these promises, beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from every defilement of body and spirit, bringing holiness to completion in the fear of God.” You can learn more about this in this post: How to Experience a Heavenly Life on Earth.

I am praying for you. May God bless you.

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A Wise Person Appeals to Their Accuser

Have you met a wise thief or swindler? Do you know someone who cheated the government of owed taxes? Most foolish people think they are getting away with their sins, but they usually get caught. So, what does Jesus say to do with a thief when caught in their sinful scheme? Many people followed Jesus because He did great miracles. Jesus knew that many of those listening to His first sermon could be thieves or did not pay back what they owed or wronged someone. He gives the instruction to make it right with the person you wronged. Matthew 5:25-26 states, “Come to terms quickly with your accuser while you are going with him to court, lest your accuser hand you over to the judge, and the judge to the guard, and you be put in prison. ²⁶Truly, I say to you, you will never get out until you have paid the last penny.”

God knew we would need a court system because there were going to be disputes between people, so when the Israelites were wandering around the desert, He set up levels of judges to hear their cases, just like we have today. Moses tells the tribal leaders the following in Deuteronomy 1:17; “You shall not be partial in judgment. You shall hear the small and the great alike. You shall not be intimidated by anyone, for the judgment is God’s. And the case that is too hard for you, you shall bring to me, and I will hear it.’”

The Bible discourages us from going to court.

My husband wanted a few trees cut down and a cherry limb. One tree was a huge Maple close to the house that was rotting at the base. The arborist gave us a price for the Maple and the cherry limb together. It took the man six months to get the maple cut down and cut the cherry limb. We paid him what he charged us. Then we get another bill a month later for trimming a tree he did not do. He insisted he did the work, and we owe him the money, which was over $700.00. He also was a brother in the Lord and a pastor at one time. The man had a reputation for not being honest. In Proverbs 25:9-10, King Solomon explains, “Argue your case with your neighbor himself, and do not reveal another’s secret, lest he who hears you bring shame upon you, and your ill repute have no end.”

We appealed to him first to see if he mistakenly sent us the bill. He insisted he did the work. We tried to reason with the man, but he slandered us to our mutual Christian friends for not paying this bill. He tried to ruin our reputation, but in fact, his reputation came into question. Then my husband went to church leadership and appealed to them, and they agreed to meet to discuss the discrepancy. My husband sent them all the email exchanges of what we agreed upon to prepare for the meeting. COVID hit and the in-person meeting never happened. In Proverbs 18:17, Solomon says, “The one who states his case first seems right, until the other comes and examines him.” We presented the evidence of what we agreed upon and the work he charged us for. He dropped his charge against us because we proved our case to the church leadership, and now his reputation was in question.

The Bible explains the proper way to deal with someone who has sinned against you. Matthew 18:15-17 states, “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. ¹⁶But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. ¹⁷If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.” Also, Christians should not be involved in lawsuits against believers.

1 Corinthians 6:1-10 explains, “When one of you has a grievance against another, does he dare go to law before the unrighteous instead of the saints?

²Or do you not know that the saints will judge the world? And if the world is to be judged by you, are you incompetent to try trivial cases?

³Do you not know that we are to judge angels? How much more, then, matters pertaining to this life!

⁴So if you have such cases, why do you lay them before those who have no standing in the church?

⁵I say this to your shame. Can it be that there is no one among you wise enough to settle a dispute between the brothers, ⁶but brother goes to law against brother, and that before unbelievers?

⁷To have lawsuits at all with one another is already a defeat for you. Why not rather suffer wrong? Why not rather be defrauded?

⁸But you yourselves wrong and defraud—even your own brothers!

⁹Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, ¹⁰nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.”

We cannot hide our sins from God. Exodus 22:9 states, “For every breach of trust, whether it is for an ox, for a donkey, for a sheep, for a cloak, or for any kind of lost thing, of which one says, ‘This is it,’ the case of both parties shall come before God. The one whom God condemns shall pay double to his neighbor.” If my husband and I were trying to get out of paying what we owed the man and the church leaders said we owed him, then we would have to pay up, and maybe twice as much. This verse was for the Israelites, but we still should follow the principles laid out by God.

The man who tried to swindle us for work he did not do is currently serving time in prison for child rape charges of his grandchild, which he denies, but a jury found him guilty. He has deceived another brother in the Lord into paying his legal fees and even appealing the verdict. Usually, if a Christian has a sin problem in one area, they almost always have sin problems in other areas of their life. Pride will always be the center of every sin issue. Pride keeps a person from repentance and opens the door to demonic deception and enticement.

People with pride issues will have no problems lying or stealing, but God knows every wicked thought and way. Psalm 139:1b-4 explains, “You have searched me and known me! ²You know when I sit down and when I rise up; you discern my thoughts from afar. ³You search out my path and my lying down and are acquainted with all my ways. ⁴Even before a word is on my tongue, behold, O LORD, you know it altogether.”

CHALLENGE: Do you want to be wise? Seek God to show you if a spirit of pride controls your thoughts because the devil might tempt you to think, “What they did is wrong. I am going to take them to court.” I regularly root out the sin of pride in my life, so that other sins do not rule my mind. Always best to obey Jesus’s instructions.

May God bless you richly.

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