I suffered from all 12 joy stealers. In fact, I was so miserable that my husband often threatened to call me “ce” instead of Joyce (true story). I wrote in my last two posts about suffering well. For many of us, we do not suffer well and we relive painful memories, thus, perpetuating the pain that robs us of joy in our present life.
12 JOY STEALERS
Sadness: sorrow about the loss of love, honor, respect, innocence, and not being accepted. It is a feeling of dejection, which is a low spirit of depression and discouragement.
Depression: brooding on one’s problems
Apathy: absence or suppression of passion, emotion, or excitement (I don’t care attitude)
Despair: loss of hope
Discouragement: having no courage, confidence, or hope
Grief: keen mental suffering or distress over affliction or loss
Hopelessness: having no expectation of a favorable outcome
Despondency: being in very low spirits due to a loss of hope and a sense of futility about continuing one’s efforts
Misery: a condition of great suffering because of pain, poverty, etc.; distress
Feeling Inferior: below average; low status, rank, etc.
Feeling Worthless: without worth; of no use, importance, or value
Complaining attitude: to express dissatisfaction, pain, uneasiness, censure, resentment, or grief; find fault
I spoke with an elderly man who spent his whole life reliving his past hurts. Have you ever been around people who have to tell you how bad they had it and the terrible things that happened in their life? How does that make you feel? Do you relive your past hurts and disappointments? I too suffered a lot of hurts, disappointments, abuses, rejections, betrayals, etc., which was why I had no joy and was always angry. I didn’t like living with myself and I made everyone else miserable. My website, hopeforcompeletehealing.com, contains my story and how I discovered the secret to overcoming these 12 joy stealers, plus so much more.
I asked the elderly man what the purpose was for telling us these terrible things. He said he can’t get them out of his head. I told him the first step was to forgive each person who caused him pain, and then to ask God to take that memory out of his head. I overcame my painful memories by doing this. In fact, just today, I was complaining again. By the way, complaining is a symptom of a painful memory. So, I asked God to show me why I was complaining. I waited until God brought the memories to my mind of how my father often let me down. Next, I forgave him and asked God to lose (untie and remove) each memory from my mind related to the unmet expectations and the resulting disappointment. This process is explained in detail on my website. I invite you to visit my site to learn more.
Very glad: happy; pleased
Grateful: a feeling of thankful appreciation
Great pleasure: enjoyment, delight, satisfaction
Delighted for what Christ has done for us
Rejoicing attitude: expression of joy or gladness
As the painful memories are healed pray and bind-in/put on the following 10 TRUTH AND TRANSFORMATION STATEMENTS
I choose to stay focused on God and receive His love, and be filled with joy. John 17:13; John 15:11
I choose to rejoice always, pray without ceasing; and be thankful in everything for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus. 1 Thes. 5:16-18
The God of hope fills me with joy and peace as I believe, so that I will abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. Rom. 15:13; Rom. 5:3-5
The joy of the Lord is my strength. Neh. 8:10
Joy is found in the presence of God, and He will make know to me the path of life and bring me to a place of abundance. Ps. 16:11
Nothing has power over me unless I allow it. I choose to be free and rejoice always and not be anxious about anything, but continually give my concerns to God. Phil. 4:4-7
Joy is knowing that even the demons are subject to Jesus’s name and I am protected from evil. Luke 10:17; 1 Jn. 5:18; Jn. 17:15; 2 Thes. 3:3
Joy is found in believing the truths of the Word of God. John 15:11; Mk. 4:16
Happiness depends on circumstances. I can have joy in spite of my circumstances. I can be thankful even when life is hard because I am becoming complete and lacking nothing. James 1:2-3
A joyful heart is good medicine and I will focus on God and not my circumstances or past. Prov. 17:22