I suffered from all 12 joy stealers. In fact, I was so miserable that my husband often threatened to call me “ce” instead of Joyce (true story). I wrote in my last two posts about suffering well. For many of us, we do not suffer well and we relive painful memories, thus, perpetuating the pain that robs us of joy in our present life. The links to my last two posts: 7 Ways to Suffer Well: (Part 1) and Joseph, an Example of Suffering Well and God’s Response: Part 2 of Suffering Well
12 JOY STEALERS
Sadness: sorrow about the loss of love, honor, respect, innocence, and not being accepted. It is a feeling of dejection, which is a low spirit of depression and discouragement.
Depression: brooding on one’s problems
Apathy: absence or suppression of passion, emotion, or excitement (I don’t care attitude)
Despair: loss of hope
Discouragement: having no courage, confidence, or hope
Grief: keen mental suffering or distress over affliction or loss
Hopelessness: having no expectation of a favorable outcome
Despondency: being in very low spirits due to a loss of hope and a sense of futility about continuing one’s efforts
Misery: a condition of great suffering because of pain, poverty, etc.; distress
Feeling Inferior: below average; low status, rank, etc.
Feeling Worthless: without worth; of no use, importance, or value
Complaining attitude: to express dissatisfaction, pain, uneasiness, censure, resentment, or grief; find fault
I spoke with an elderly man who spent his whole life reliving his past hurts. Have you ever been around people who have to tell you how bad they had it and the terrible things that happened in their life? How does that make you feel? Do you relive your past hurts and disappointments? I too suffered a lot of hurts, disappointments, abuses, rejections, betrayals, etc., which was why I had no joy and was always angry. I didn’t like living with myself and I made everyone else miserable. My website, hopeforcompeletehealing.com, contains my story and how I discovered the secret to overcoming these 12 joy stealers, plus so much more.
I asked the elderly man what the purpose was for telling us these terrible things. He said he can’t get them out of his head. I told him the first step was to forgive each person who caused him pain, and then to ask God to take that memory out of his head. I overcame my painful memories by doing this. In fact, just today, I was complaining again. By the way, complaining is a symptom of a painful memory. So, I asked God to show me why I was complaining. I waited until God brought the memories to my mind of how my father often let me down. Next, I forgave my father and asked God to lose (untie and remove) the negative effect of each memory from my mind related to the unmet expectations and the resulting disappointment. This process is explained in detail on my website. I invite you to visit my site to learn more. https://hopeforcompletehealing.com
This man, and many people, are only focused on what they don’t like and the bad things that happened, and they remain stuck in misery. Do you see yourself stuck in the pit of depression and misery? Maybe you feel sad, humiliated, or shame, which is stealing your joy. See the following page to transform these negative heart issues with transformation truth: JOY Issues
You may also be interested in reading my story of Freedom from Humiliation and Mental Strongholds of Shame and Sadness