A false or unhealthy belief is a lie about the true nature of reality about ourselves, life, and God. For example, if you believe you are not worthy of love, you believe a lie. These lies come from words spoken over us and from memories of offenses done against us. For example, I grew up in a very dysfunctional angry “Christian” home, and I developed a lot of false beliefs about myself, other people, life, and God. I share my story in more detail in the following post: My Story.
The following nine categories of unhealthy, destructive beliefs distort the way we view everything in life.
1. I am unlovable. I am insignificant. I am flawed.
2. I am hopeless. I am worthless. Life is hopeless.
3. Something bad will happen. The future will be like the past. I’m not OK.
4. Something must change right now for me to be OK.
5. People will take advantage of me. People are too sensitive.
6. I am bad. I am not good enough. I am unforgivable.
7. People are out to get me. I must be in control. It’s not fair.
8. People must think well of me for me to be OK.
9. I can’t do it. I am not capable. Others should do it for me. It’s not fair.
The Healing Codes Manual by Loyd and Johnson, p. 55
We internalize these unhealthy, false beliefs at a subconscious level. And, they cause us to live in self-destructive ways. There are many self-destructive behaviors, such as cutting, alcohol and drug abuse, uncontrollable anger, self-debasing comments, anxiety, etc. The beliefs mentioned above may result in addictions to cover over the painful feelings these beliefs generate. To learn more about addictions, read my post called Addiction Strongholds. Unhealthy beliefs also create stress in our bodies that lead to illness and disease, which is explained in detail in my book on this website.
Do the following to uncover your unhealthy beliefs. First, pay attention to your thoughts and reactions and write down strong emotional reactions. Second, ask God to show you the unhealthy belief(s) that is generating your wrong thinking in your reactions. Third, trace backward from negative fruit in your life, and prayerfully ask God to show you the answer to the following question, “what is the root of this fruit?”
Wrong thinking creates negative feelings, which directs unloving, destructive behavior so ask God to show you the link. Also, look for a link to a trauma memory, offense, and word curses because they also create unhealthy belief(s). Some examples of word curses are: “I will probably fail. I will most likely end up in divorce. Nobody likes me. All politicians are evil. A godly person can’t succeed in business.” Have you thought these? He will show you so you can then remove it through prayer and repentance, which I explain how on my website, 1–Healing Begins by Transforming Painful Memories
Reading self-help books will also reveal unhealthy beliefs and wrong thinking. I especially like the book called “Seven Habits of Highly Effective People” by Stephen Covey. I encourage you to read my adapted summary of the right beliefs and thoughts we should have according to Mr. Covey. Healthy Thinking and Behaving from Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
Read each of the Issues Worksheets to learn about other subconscious unhealthy beliefs we can have and the truth to replace these unhealthy beliefs. LOVE Issues, JOY Issues, PEACE Issues, PATIENCE Issues, KINDNESS Issues, GOODNESS Issues, TRUST AND FAITHFULNESS Issues, MEEKNESS, HUMILITY, AND GENTLENESS Issues, and SELF-CONTROL Issues.
Read, who God is and what you can be thankful for to replace the lies you believe about God and yourself.