The pride and judgmental strongholds in my life protected many issues of anger generated from the humiliation, shame, injustices, betrayals, disappointments, and rejections from my childhood. For example, I was offended when my younger sister would demean me and put me down continually when we was growing up. I stored that hurt and offense in my heart, and every time I was demeaned or felt demeaned as an adult, I would explode with anger. When I asked God to show me why I was getting so angry, He showed me how my younger sister had offended me. I then forgave my sister because I know she demeaned me because she was hurting too. I then confessed any sin on my part to God, which is very important for overcoming anger issues, because our sin has negative, oppressive stress energy and will re-establish offenses. For instance, I confessed and asked for forgiveness of the sin of wanting to harm my sister. And, I confessed the sin of demeaning and disgracing her in return.
People with this stronghold combination typically come from dysfunctional or abusive families. The pride stronghold and sin is often created by a damaged self-worth and low self-esteem and is often revealed by over-sensitivity and over-reaction. The pride stronghold is then protected by the judgmental stronghold to justify pride. Furthermore, I believe the main issue that generates pride and being judgmental is when trust is broken, which stems from offenses in the heart because of betrayal. These two strongholds protect the seat of anger, which holds our unmet needs and desires; hurt and pain; offenses; neglect; abandonment; soul wounds, etc. that control our thoughts, words, and behaviors. I believe that this stronghold combination is the next most prevalent stronghold combination next to worry and fear. Understand that God hates pride (Prov. 8:13; James 4:6), and anger does not achieve the righteousness of God, only peace and humility does (James 1:20; 3:18).
The pride stronghold protects many unhealthy beliefs such as—I am better than you. Don’t tell me I am wrong. Don’t tell me what to do but do what I want. The judgmental stronghold, protects unhealthy beliefs of—I have the right to determine if you are right, wrong, or insincere. I have the right to be angry, bitter, resentful, and hateful. I don’t trust you or value you. This protects the anger seat of authority which holds all our hurts, disappointments, unmet needs and desires, offenses, soul wounds, bitterness, resentments, and hatred. Remember the castle illustration from my post about strongholds?
The sins of anger, bitterness, resentment, hatred, judging, and pride keep captive love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness (humility), faithfulness (trust), and self-control so they cannot operate in us or flow out of us to others. To learn how to be free from anger and this stronghold combination, please visit my website, you will be glad you did.
The above statements are passages from my book called “Unseen Battles for Your Mind,” which is in the editing stage, and therefore, is not to be recopied without my permission.