Victorious Thinking to Live a Successful Life

The girls in my county jail Bible study struggle to live successful lives.  Most of their problems and troubles result from their wrong thoughts.  The progression of thoughts to results are as follows.  What we think affects our emotions.  Our emotions control our behavior.  And, our behavior directs the events of our lives.

For example, destructive thinking is to think of things that offend you, which causes you to be angry, fearful, or sad. When you are fearful, angry, or sad, you will act out these emotions in aggressive or passive-aggressive ways. Passive-aggressive behavior varies, but can be silence, avoidance, harming yourself by cutting, using drugs, turning to alcohol, etc.   When you act on your negative emotions, then there will be strife in yourself and with others.  Strife destroys relationships in partnerships, jobs, churches, etc., which will often negatively affect your life and the lives of your family.  Review my post on the one thing that destroys relationships.

To be healthy emotionally, think positive and thankful thoughts.  When you think positive thoughts, then you will act or behave with kindness and grace.   Showing gratitude and grace will strengthen your relationships.   Showing grace is saying a kind word or forgiving someone when they may not deserve it.  See my post Thoughts That Create Peace Within and Without.

The first step to victorious, sucessful living is to be spiritually healed.  Spiritual healing begins by confessing we are sinners in need of a savior.  Then believing Jesus Christ is God the Son, who died and rose again, forgives our sins, and frees us from sins control (See Jn 1:29; 1 Jn 4:15; 1 Pet 1:18-19; Col 1:14; & Gal 5:1). When we confess this with our mouth and believe it with our heart, then God the Holy Spirit and His love, life, and light enter our hearts (See Gal 4:6 & 1 Cor 6:17). If you have not made this confession, then do it now to experience spiritual healing (See Rom 10:9-13 & Eph 2:1-10).  Next, practice the following actions to live a victorious and successful life.

1)  Live through Christ Jesus: See 1 John 4:9-12, 17; 2 Cor 13:4; Gal 2:20.  Live through Christ by doing the following actions.

  • Keep your mind on Him and transform your thinking: See Col 3:1-4; Is 26:3; James 1:21; Rom 12:2; Phil 4:8
  • Seek His help when you struggle with temptations and wrong thinking: See Heb 2:17-18; 4:15-16; 1 Cor 10:13
  • Abide (stay; dwell) with Him, and His words abide in you: See Jn 15:1-8; 1 John 2:24; Jam 1:21-25; 4:6-8; Matt 7:24-26
  • Forgive as He forgave (key to successful relationships): See Matt 6:12-15; 18:21-35; Col 3:13; Mark 11:25
  • Be humble as He was: See Phil. 2:3-11; Matthew 11:29; 1 Peter 5:5
  • Love as He Loved: See John 15:9-14; 1 Cor. 13:4-7; 16:14

2)  Rely on the Holy Spirit as your Helper:  See John 14:26 and John 15:26. To renew us See Titus 3:3-7 & 1 Cor 6:11. To put off your old life and put on a new life: See Eph 4:22-24; Col 3:5-15; 2 Cor 5:17

3)  Die to sin and be free from it’s control, then do what is right by setting your mind on the things of the Spirit:  See 1 Peter 2:24; Rom 6:10-14; 8:4-11; 1 John 1:7; 3:5-8, 14; Col 3:5-17, Eph 4:17-32; 5:8; 1 John 1:9; Hebrews 12:1-2; 1 Pet. 2:11; James 1:21; Gal 5:22-25. Deny your fleshly desires (sin/evil) and avoid the consequences:  See James 1:13-15; Gal 5:16-21; 6:7-8; 1 Cor 6:9-10; Rom 8:7-8, 13-14; Mark 7:20-23; Rev 21:8

4)  Pray continually: See Phil 4:6-7; Rom 12:12; 1 Thes 5:17 –Turn every wrong, sinful thought into a prayer of repentance and renewal immediately.  The longer we think wrong thoughts the further down the wrong path we will go (1 John 1:9; 3:21-24).

5)  Submit to God and stand firm against the enemy of your mind and your faith:  See James 4:7,8; Gal 5:1; Eph 6:10-17; 1 Peter 5:6-10; Heb 11:1, 6; 12:1-3; 1 John 5:4-5

6)  Persevere through trials; trusting God is at work, and put your hope in Him: See John 16:33; 1 Peter 1:6-9; 4:12-14, 19; Matt 6:33-34; 8:28; James 1:2-4, 12; 5:11; Heb 10:36-39; 12:5-7; Rom 5:2-4; 8:18; Lam 3:21-25; Is 30:18; Ps 62:5-8; 147:11; Luke 6:22; 2 Cor 4:17-18; 12:10

7)  Do the Will of God, found in the Word of God:  See James 1:21-25; 1 Peter 4:2; Matt 3:35; Rom 12:2; 1 Thes 4:3; 5:12-18; 1 Pet 2:15; 1 John 2:17; 5:14-15

Be Blessed or Be Cursed

How can we be a blessing to someone or be a curse to someone.  Do our words encourage or discourage?  Do you want to be blessed by God or be cursed by God?

Being blessed is being encouraged and made joyful with good things.  We are blessed when someone is kind to us or is patient and gives us grace when we screw up.  The Bible says we are blessed when we remain in the presence of God (see John 15).  We are also blessed when we trust and obey God.   We will be blessed even in our trials and distresses, because He is with us.  The word blessed occurs 306 times in the English Standard Version (ESV).

To be cursed is to be made miserable and destitute because of our own sin or the sin of other people.  So, what is sin?  The short answer, sin is disobedience to the truth and commands in the Bible (i.e., love others, be kind, patient, etc.).  We are also cursed when we do not trust and obey God and when we turn our hearts away from Him.  The word cursed occurs 74 times in the ESV.  Our words are the most common way we curse God and each other.  Read my post called: WORDS HAVE POWER—Part I: Overcoming The Destruction of Offensive Words

Meditate on and journal your answers for the following Scripture:

Jeremiah 17:5-8 states, “Thus says the LORD: ‘Cursed is the man who trusts in man and makes flesh his strength, whose heart turns away from the LORD. 6) He is like a shrub in the desert and shall not see any good come. He shall dwell in the parched places of the wilderness, in an uninhabited salt land.’  7) ‘Blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD, whose trust is the LORD.  8) He is like a tree planted by water, that sends out its roots by the stream, and does not fear when heat comes, for its leaves remain green, and is not anxious in the year of drought, for it does not cease to bear fruit.‘”

??  How are we cursed when we trust in man and find strength in our flesh (verse 5)?

??  What happens when we turn our hearts away from the LORD (verse 6)?  Does your life feel like this?

??  What happens when we trust the LORD (verse 8)?  In what areas of your life can you trust God more?

Deuteronomy 28 also defines how we will be blessed or cursed if we choose to obey or not.

All these BLESSINGS will come upon you and accompany you
If you OBEY the LORD your God:

1. Your children will be blessed.
2. Your land and livestock will be productive (e.g., your life work will be successful.)
3. Your basket and your kneading trough will be blessed (e.g., you’ll have plenty to eat.)
4. You will be blessed when you come in and blessed when you go out.
5.  Your enemies will be defeated before you.  They will come at you from one direction but flee from you in seven.
6. The LORD will send a blessing on your barns (wealth) and on everything you put your hand to.
7. The LORD will establish you as his holy people…
8. The LORD will grant you abundant prosperity…
9. The LORD will open the heavens, the storehouse of his bounty, to send rain on your land in season and to bless all the work of your hands.
10. The LORD will make you the head, not the tail IF you pay attention to the commands of the LORD your God… you will always be at the top, never at the bottom.

Also, read the Beatitudes in Matthew chapter 5 and Luke chapter 6 to learn more on how to be blessed.

However, IF you do NOT obey the LORD your God…
ALL these CURSES will come upon you and overtake you.

1. Wherever you go, you will be cursed.
2. Your basket and your kneading trough will be cursed (e.g., you will not have enough to eat.)
3. Your children will be cursed.
4. Your land and livestock will be cursed (e.g., your life work will fail.)
5. You will be cursed when you come in and cursed when you go out.
6. The LORD will send on you curses, confusion and rebuke in everything you put your hand to until you are destroyed and come to sudden ruin because of the evil you have done in forsaking him. (2 Chronicles 12:14 states, “He did evil, for he did not set his heart to seek the LORD.”)
7. The LORD will plague you with diseases… with a wasting disease, with fever and inflammation, with scorching heat and drought, with blight and mildew…
8. The LORD will turn the rain of your country into dust and powder…
9. The LORD will cause you to be defeated before your enemies…
10. The LORD will afflict you with the boils of Egypt and with tumors, festering sores and the itch, from which you cannot be cured.
11. The LORD will afflict you with madness, blindness and confusion of mind.
12. You will be unsuccessful in everything you do…

There are 17 more curses listed in this passage. Would you not agree that it is better to obey God than disobey?  To know more about what evil is, please read the following post: EVIL—What is it and what is the remedy?

?? How do the verses in Jeremiah compare with these verses in Deuteronomy?

?? Are you experiencing any of the above curses? If you are, then seek God to show you the sin of disobedience that is blocking God’s blessings.

??  What changes do you need to make to be blessed?

To learn how you can live a blessed life read: Living a Victorious Life

Another type of curse that causes misery are word curses put on us by family members, teachers, and those who hate us.  We also put word curses on ourselves.  I became free from many curses, and I encourage you to read my short book on my website to know what word curses are and how you can become free too. Many times we bring curses on ourselves when we do not trust and obey God. If you struggle to trust God, you may have false beliefs that prevent you from trusting God. I encourage you to read my short book to be free from these unhealthy beliefs. Go to Hopeforcompletehealing.com

?? Do you want to be blessed or cursed?

?? What do you need to do to be blessed?

How do we Know our Purpose?

Have you figured out the purpose for your existence? I wondered what my purpose was for many years, but then I saw purpose in every day in how I treated other people. Purpose is to aim, intend, or resolve to do something. Did you ever think that our purpose is to resolve to show love, be kind, be patient and gentle with annoyances, spread joy, ease a burden for someone, live in peace with others, be faithful to our family and employers, be trustworthy and not lie, and lastly to be self-controlled and not indulge our unhealthy feelings or desires. The following verses are well known to many concerning God’s purposes.

Jeremiah 29:11 states, “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for welfare1 and not for evil (calamity; NAS, harm; NIV), to give you a future and a hope.” (ESV)  1) Welfare means a state of being or doing well; condition of health, happiness, and prosperity; well-being.

Romans 8:28 states, “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to His purpose.

Ephesians 2:10 states, “For we are His workmanship created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.”

Patiently wait for God’s purpose for our lives.

I will describe God’s plan and purpose for some of the people in the Bible, which was to fulfill the good work God planed as they put their trust in Him.  In the same way, the purpose God has for us will impact mankind (male and female) no matter how insignificant even if our purpose is to work in the nursery at church, which has a great and significant impact in the kingdom of God. I know that my purpose was to create the “Hope for Complete Healing” website, to help people become free from the bondage of painful memories.  I hope the following summaries will encourage you and help you see that God’s purposes for each of us are different; we only need to be willing to obey and be faithful and trust Him.

Adam’s and Eve’s purpose was to rule all the created creatures, birds, and fish, as well as all the earth. They were to be fruitful and multiply and to obey God. Therefore, when they disobeyed, then sin and its consequences affected all of mankind. See Genesis, chapters 1-4.

Noah’s purpose was to build an ark, which took over100 years to build. He obeyed God even though he had no concept of what a flood or rain was. He was ridiculed the entire time he was building the ark by everyone around him, but he steadfastly obeyed God’s purpose for his life. See Genesis, chapters 5-11.

Abraham’s purpose was to be the father of the Jewish nation, yet he had no children until he was 100 years old, when he had Isaac. God told Abraham to go to a foreign land and settle there. He obeyed God and remained faithful, and God blessed him wherever he went. Because of his faith in God, he was known as the friend of God. See Genesis, chapters 12-23.

Joseph’s purpose was to be the ruler of Egypt and save his family (the beginning of the Jewish nation) from starvation. But to fulfill this purpose, he had to be sold as a slave into Egypt, put in prison for three years, and then to interpret Pharaoh’s dream. Pharaoh then put Joseph second in command of Egypt. Joseph did not know what his purpose was until he saw his brothers many years later, but he remained faithful to God. See Genesis, chapters 37-47.

Moses’s purpose was to lead the Israelites out of Egypt, where they were being oppressed and made slaves. God arranged for Moses to be raised in Pharaoh’s house until he fled into the wilderness when he killed an Egyptian for hurting a Hebrew. Moses was 80 years old when God called him from the burning bush to fulfill his purpose and go back to Egypt after spending 40 years herding sheep in the wilderness. Moses obeyed but asked God for help because he did not speak well, so God arranged for his brother Aaron to meet him. See Exodus, chapters 1-4.

David was anointed king around 15 years old. He knew his purpose, but it was another 15 years until he became king, and much of that time he spent wandering the wilderness and living in caves fleeing from King Saul, who was trying to kill him. But David remained faithful to God and is known for having a heart after God. See 1 Samuel, chapters 19-22.

Daniel’s purpose was to be a ruler in Babylon and to intercede for Israel. He was taken as a captive to Babylon at 16 years old and indoctrinated into the Babylonian culture.  Daniel remained faithful to God and continued to trust Him. God put it into His heart to pray three times a day for Israel, and he was faithful to this purpose even after knowing he would be thrown into the lion’s den, but God sent an angel to shut the hungry lion’s mouths. See Daniel, chapters 1-6.

Esther was a Babylonian Jewish captive, whose purpose was to save the Jewish nation from annihilation. The Persian King wanted another Queen after beheading the previous queen. So, there was a beauty contest, and Esther won. She was queen for many years before she found out about the plan to kill all the Jews, but she took courage to approach the King to save herself and her people. She did not know her purpose for being queen until it happened.

There are many other Old Testament examples; the following are two New Testament examples:

Jesus’s purpose was to redeem us from our sinful nature and eternal death, by offering Himself as a perfect sacrifice to pay the penalty and debt for our sin. He was 33 years old when he fulfilled his purpose. John 12:27 states, “Now My soul has become troubled; and what shall I say, ‘Father, save Me from this hour’? But for this purpose, I came to this hour.Ephesians 1:7-9 states, “In Him, we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of our sins, according to the riches of His grace, 8) which He lavished on us. In all wisdom and insight, 9) He made known to us the mystery of His will, according to His kind intention which He purposed in Him

Saul, who was killing and imprisoning Christians, became Paul, whose purpose was to spread Christianity to the Gentiles.  God struck him down and blinded him for three days, then he received the call of God on his life. He then spent three years in the wilderness, learning from God about what he was to do and preach. When Paul obeyed and remained faithful, God was able to use him mightily.  He spent most of his ministry in prison because of a wrongful accusation, where he wrote most of the New Testament, which was God’s purpose for him. Acts 26:16 –explains Paul’s conversion.  “But get up and stand on your feet; for this purpose I [Jesus] have appeared to you, to appoint you a minister and a witness not only to the things which you have seen, but also to the things in which I will appear to you;Acts 20:27—Paul wrote, “For I did not shrink from declaring to you the whole purpose of God.” According to this verse, our purpose is defined in the Word of God; therefore, I believe we need to study the Word of God to know His purpose, and to be ready to obey and fulfill our purpose.

APPLICATION

Some of the people in the Bible knew their purpose, but it took a while until they saw the purpose fulfilled. In fact, they all had to go through some suffering, trials, and wilderness experiences to prepare them for their purpose, which is the same for us. Some people may never know their purpose because their purpose was fulfilled as they lived out their lives. And, some people will only know their purpose at the moment God calls, and they obey.

Sick and Tired? Change Your Destiny! Be Free From the Infirmity Stronghold

Changing your destiny is as simple as changing your thinking. For example, were you ever told that your illness is all in your head?  Many illnesses can be healed by changing our thinking. Let me explain. When someone suffers from illnesses, they are said to be infirm. Infirmity is defined as weakness and frailness in our minds and bodies. Have you heard of  infirmaries, also called hospitals and medical facilities for those who are sick. When infirmity is chronic, then it is most likely a stronghold that we develop when we are told we are weak and prone to sicknesses and then we believe this, and it becomes a reality, our destiny.

Some people have the subconscious wrong belief that being sick gets them the attention they so desperately want, which was the case with several people I knew. One of the girls recognized it after going through my book called “Hope for Complete Healing.” The infirmity stronghold also protects the wrong thinking that you have weak genes; therefore, you may say, “I am going to get cancer because my grandmother had cancer,” or “I am going to get diabetes because my uncle has it,” or whatever. For example, my family’s generational history is plagued with mental illnesses, cancer, obesity, and joint problems; should I then believe that I too will have these same problems?

The following explanation of mental strongholds is a reminder for those who are just learning about them. Many examples are on my website. Mental strongholds are the mental fortresses that would look like castle walls if they had a physical form.  Bad memories build strongholds to protect us. But in fact, they keep us from experiencing life and love. Mental strongholds are usually built to protect an unhealthy belief or beliefs generated by bad experiences that we have often forgotten about but are in our subconscious and still control us. Visit my website for more details about the many unhealthy beliefs we can have. Authority seats are like thrones within fortified castles. A ruler builds a fortress to protect his or her interests and authority to rule. Our mental strongholds need to be torn down so they can stop controlling our reactions and decisions.

I have discovered that the stronghold of infirmity protects the authority seat of oppression, which holds many illnesses, distresses, diseases, sicknesses, etc. Oppression is a feeling of being weighed down or being physically or mentally distressed. When Jesus healed people, He often commanded the spirit that was oppressing the person to be gone, and then they were healed. Acts 10:38 states, “…how God anointed Jesus of Nazareth with the Holy Spirit and with power. He went about doing good and healing all who were oppressed by the devil, for God was with him. Also, see Matthew. 4:24; 8:16; 9:32; 12:22; 15:22; Mark 1:32; Luke 4:18; and John 10:21.

Often a person feels they have no responsibility for what happens to them because they feel they have no control. The unhealthy beliefs could be: “I am incapable of taking care of myself.” “It does not matter what I do or eat; I will have this illness because of my genetics.” “Cancer, diabetes, heart disease, arthritis all run in my family, and I have no control.” As I explained previously, our unhealthy beliefs control our decisions and behaviors and ultimately our destiny, so if we believe we have no control over what happens to us, then we will not believe we can be responsible and trust God to heal us. I know this firsthand because it was my life for many years until I changed my unhealthy beliefs and took responsibility for my physical and mental health.

God led me to read the book called God’s Way to Ultimate Health by Dr. George Malkmus.  I could not put the book down until I read it to the end.  In this book, I read a testimony about a woman who suffered for years with depression and was completely healed when she followed the principles in this book—I was sold.  I immediately began to follow the raw food diet principles in the book and was healed of many of my illnesses, including depression and endometriosis.  I was not, however, healed of degenerative joint disease, yet I refused to give in to the unhealthy belief that I could not be healed of that too

The truth is that when God created humans, He put them in a garden and said, “Every seed-bearing plant on the face of the earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it, they will be yours for food” (Gen. 1:29, NAS). Then after the flood in Gen. 9:3 God added to this diet and said, “Every moving thing that is alive shall be food for you; I give all to you, as I gave the green plant. Only you shall not eat flesh with its life (blood) (NAS). Satan may have put the lie into your mind that you don’t like vegetables, so you think, “I don’t like vegetables,” which then becomes a reality and you won’t eat the very food God created as good for man. Replace this unhealthy belief with the truth that you like vegetables because they are good for your body so you can be strong and healthy. The closer we eat to the way God instructed, and the closer the food looks to the way God created it, the healthier we will be. You may think that the overly processed food you are eating will not harm you, that is an unhealthy belief. Do not believe it. I understand that natural degeneration and suffering comes with aging because we live in a decaying world and our bodies are decaying.  But we can delay premature decay and mitigate many inevitable diseases if we take care of our bodies, which is the temple of God (see 1 Corinthians 3:16-17; 6:19-20).

Our health is a result of what we eat, so I kept on seeking God to help me overcome the degenerative joint disease issue. God led me to the book called Live Right for (4) Your Type by Peter J. D’Adamo, ND. In this book, I learned about how “lectins” in certain foods will cause degeneration. A lectin is a specialized protein in foods which have the potential to cause inflammation and cell damage and may initiate a cascade of immune and autoimmune events leading to cell death. (Sullivan, 2013) D’Adamo recommends that certain foods should be avoided by people with certain blood types. All blood types are to avoid wheat, corn, and pork because of the lectin reaction in everyone’s body. When I avoid all products containing these three food items, I have no problems with  back or joint pain. When I do eat foods with these ingredients, then I have a lot of pain and suffering until my body repairs the damaged cells.

I currently struggle with fibromyalgia, and I know that one day I will resolve this painful condition as well.  I do know that fibromyalgia is a physical reaction related to stress because when I pray about a stressful situation, my pain subsides.  A researcher told me that many who have been abused as children have the highest incidents of fibromyalgia diagnoses.  Read more about my life story here.  As I heal past physiological stress related to painful memories, my fibromyalgia has improved.  I came up with the following progression from thoughts to destiny, which is similar to other progressions.

Watch your thinking.
What you think creates feelings;
Feelings create beliefs (true or false);
Beliefs create behaviors (good or bad);
Behaviors create habits;
Habits create character;
Character creates destiny.
Change your destiny by changing your thinking.

Example of a wrong thought: I think I have no control over my bad health.  So, I feel sad and depressed.  My depression leads me to believe there is no hope.  Because I have no hope, I continue to eat a sugar-filled diet, which I know this behavior is bad for my health.  I become addicted to sugar. Because of my addiction to sugar, I become apathetic.  Apathy destroys my destiny for better health.

Example of a right thought: I think I can overcome my bad health.  So, I feel happy and optimistic.  I believe there is hope.  Because I have hope, I make the right lifestyle changes to improve my health.  I get into a regular exercise and healthy eating habit.  My good habits increase my optimism, and I see change.

If you see infirmity and oppression ruling your life, then go through the chapters on my website to understand the neuroscience factors of painful memories and how to change your brain’s reactions. Renew your thinking with the following truth statements.

TRUTH STATEMENTS

• God wants to give me health and healing. (Jer. 33:6)

• As I heal my negative heart issues, then my soul will prosper, and all will be well with me, and I will be in good health (3 John 1:2).

• When I fear the Lord and turn from evil, then I will experience healing of my body and refreshing of my bones (Prov. 3:7,8; Psalms 38:3; Mal. 4:2).

• By my faith in Jesus’ power to heal, I will be healed (Luke 7:7-10; Matt. 5:34; Matt. 8:13; Matt. 15:28).

• God wants to deliver me from evil spirit attachments and heal all my infirmities (Luke 8:2; Matt. 17:18; Matt. 8:16).

• By the wounds of Jesus, I have been healed (1 Peter. 2:24).

The above statements are passages from my book called Unseen Battles of Your Mind, which is in the editing stage; and therefore, is not to be recopied without my permission.