So why is pride a destructive force? Pride is more than feeling good when we accomplish something great. Arrogant or conceited pride keeps us from loving others well. Second, pride prevents us from seeing the sin of thinking more highly of ourselves than we ought. Last, pride justifies self-centered behavior that erodes relationships. Not only is pride destructive, but God hates pride and will oppose anyone who is prideful, which is explained at the end of this post. So, if we don’t want God opposing us, then we need to seriously seek to get rid of pride.
You see, pride caused Lucifer, the most beautiful angel, to be thrown out of heaven and to the earth with a 1/3 of the angels who were also prideful. Lucifer is renamed Satan or the devil, which means the destroyer (see Isaiah 14:12-14; Revelations 9:11; and John 10:10a) and the fallen angels are now called demons. So, pride is the one unseen battle for our minds that Satan will tempt us with again and again because he knows pride is destructive.
Every person has pride problems because the sinful human nature is self-centered, wanting only to please itself. Also, a self-centered person does not desire to seek God or to do His will. On the other hand, Christianity is about being Christ-like and other-centered.
Read over the following definition of pride and humility and sincerely ask God to show you what your pride issues are. Be sensitive to the voice of the Holy Spirit. When you discover your pride issue, ask God for forgiveness and to take the specific pride issue from you, and then to give you His humility and love for others. When I asked God to take the spirit of pride out of my heart and mind, I felt a huge difference when it left. Keep in mind, pride will always creep back in, so be watchful.
Pride is a high or inordinate opinion of one’s own dignity, importance, merit, or superiority, also known as exaggerated self-esteem or arrogance. Prideful people think they are better than other people and will display contempt toward those who don’t value them or their abilities. Prideful people will show disdain, contempt, or scorn for others who they think are beneath them or who disagree with them. They are judgmental and condemning of others and do not show mercy.
Pridefulness is exposed by what we say, especially when we speak more favorably of ourselves. For example, I would demean my husband by saying I was a harder worker than him; this is pride. And, I pridefully believed I did things better, and others should recognize it and praise me. Pride is evident when we try to control everything because we think we can do things better. Also, getting angry when something does not go your way shows an impatient spirit, controlled by pride. Prideful people are also insecure and judgmental. We display our pride in different ways, and it does not matter what form it takes, it still is a destructive sin.
A humble person exhibits acts of selflessness, kindness, patience, and gentleness. They are not self-asserting or boastful but are more concerned about others. Humble people are meek and not inclined to anger or resentment from insults and offenses. Meekness shows incredible strength. Humble people are merciful, polite, and respectful. People like being around those who are humble because they feel loved and safe, and never judged.
After learning these truths, I now take my angry, impatient, and controlling thoughts captive and walk them back by consciously stopping the reactive thought and thinking a truthful thought. The truth is that I can live in peace with everyone as far as it depends on me. In the New International Version, Hebrews 12:14 states, “Make every effort to live in peace with all men and to be holy, without holiness no one will see the Lord.” I also put into my mind and heart the truths that humility is realizing that everything I have, including my abilities, is a gift from God (Deut. 8:17-18). And I don’t think of myself more highly than others, but in humility, I will regard others as more important than myself (see Romans 12:3; Philippians 2:3). The more we transform our thinking with truth found in the Word of God (see Romans 12:2) and are renewed by the Holy Spirit, the more like God we will be (see Ephesians 4:23), which is loving, patient, kind, peaceful, faithful, humble, full of joy, and self-controlled. To learn how I became free to live a transformed and renewed life and how you can be free to live a new reality, visit my website: https://hopeforcompletehealing.com/.
To get a better understanding of what God thinks of pride, read the following Scriptures and write out your reflections to help you internalize these truths.
2 Chronicles 26:16 states, “But when he was strong, he grew proud, to his destruction. For he was unfaithful to the LORD his God ….”
?? Why are we unfaithful to God when we become strong?
?? How do you think pride destroys us?
?? Think about a time when pride brought destruction in your life or someone else’s life.
2 Chronicles 32:25 states, “… for his heart was proud. Therefore wrath came upon him ….”
?? Why does a proud heart deserve the wrath of God?
Psalms 10:4 states, “In the pride of his face the wicked does not seek Him; all his thoughts are, ‘There is no God.’”
?? Why doesn’t a proud person seek God?
?? And why does a proud man say, “There is no God.?”
Psalms 31:23 states, “Love the LORD, all you his saints! The LORD preserves the faithful but abundantly repays the one who acts in pride.”
?? What is the difference between the faithful and the proud person?
?? How do you think God preserves faithful people and repays prideful people?
Psalms 59:12 states, “For the sin of their mouths, the words of their lips, let them be trapped in their pride. For the cursing and lies that they utter,”
?? How do the words of the proud trap them?
?? How is lying a sign of pride?
Proverbs 11:2 states, “When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with the humble is wisdom.”
?? Why would the humble be wise, and the proud be disgraced?
Proverbs 16:18 states, “Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.”
?? Why does pride bring destruction? Give an example.
?? What causes a haughty person to fall?
Proverbs 21:24 states, “’Scoffer’ is the name of the arrogant, haughty man who acts with arrogant pride.”
?? Why do the arrogant scoff (an expression of mocking contempt, scorn; jeer)?
Proverbs 29:23 states, “One’s pride will bring him low, but he who is lowly in spirit will obtain honor.”
?? How does pride bring a person low and how do the lowly obtain honor?
Ecclesiastes 7:8 states, “Better is the end of a thing than its beginning, and the patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit.”
?? Why is a patient spirit better than a proud spirit?
?? Why is a proud person not patient?
Obadiah 1:3a states, “The pride (arrogance) of your heart has deceived you, …”
?? How does pride deceive us?
Romans 11:20, 23 states, “That is true. They were broken off because of their unbelief, but you stand fast through faith. So do not become proud (conceited), but fear. 23) And even they, if they do not continue in their unbelief, will be grafted in, for God has the power to graft them in again.”
?? How does standing fast in your faith and fearing God keep you from becoming prideful?
James 4:6 states, “But he gives more grace. Therefore, it says, ‘God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.’” (Also see 1 Peter 5:5.)
?? Why does God oppose the proud?
Understand, God hates pride. Proverbs 8:13 states, “The fear of the LORD is hatred of evil. Pride and arrogance and the way of evil (sinful behavior) and perverted speech I hate.” Also, look-up the seven things God hates in Proverbs 6:16-19. Not only does God hate pride and arrogance, but He also hates evil behavior, which is morally bad and depraved. He also hates perverted speech, which is speech that deviates from what is good or true (i.e. lying). To be sure, a proud heart will not humbly submit to God or others and do what is right (see Romans 8:7).
Read my other posts about Pride:
How I became free from pride: The Core Negative Heart Issue