Free to be Patient and free from Strongholds of Injustice and Unfairness

You know you have a patience problem when you get upset every time you drive on the road.  Also, do you often get frustrated with people when they do not meet your expectations?  You problably already know if you are not a patient person.  Our goal should be to love others well from a pure heart, and the first attribute of love is patience (1 Cor. 13:4).  So, when we are patient, we are loving well.  I have heard people say they pray for more patience than any other attribute of love. Why? Why are we not patient?  Only God can tell us why, because only He knows the hurt in our hearts, and only He can heal it.

So what is patience?  The following definitions come from Webster’s dictionary.  Patience is bearing or enduring pain, trouble, inconvenience, etc. without complaint, losing self-control, making a disturbance, etc.  To be forbearing: tolerate (to put up with).  Keep oneself in check.  Refusing to be provoked or angered, as by an insult or frustration.  And, it is merciful: compassionate or kindly forbearance shown toward an offender, an enemy, or person in one’s power.  It is persevering: steady persistence in a course of action, a purpose, a state, etc., especially in spite of difficulties, obstacles, or discouragement (does not quit).  Lastly, patience is being just: living with a moral principle that determines right conduct, and fair: treating all sides alike.

Every time I read these definitions of patience I can see where I am still falling short of not loving well. This post is my testimony of how I destroyed the mental strongholds of unfairness and injustice that control my thoughts and reactions.  So, if you have not read my post on strongholds, please read it first to understand what they are. STRONGHOLDS PART I—What are they and how do they affect us?

At a young age, I developed mental strongholds of injustice and unfairness that protected the authority seat of impatience.  Impatience ruled my behavior, which explained why I  over-reacted when I perceived something was unfair or unjust.  I had an unhealthy belief that trials or difficulties were unfair, wrongful actions against me and I needed to fight against them and the people involved.  But, in fact, trials and difficulties strengthen our ability to be patient, that is, practice makes perfect.  I also had the unhealthy belief, if I didn’t get what I needed, wanted, or what I expected, I would become frustrated and angry, which happend often.

How often do you hear a child say, “That’s not fair?”  Have you said it?  Because I thought my parents were unfair, I couldn’t trust them.  This stronghold combination prevents us from being submissive since we do not trust those in authority to be fair. So, when a person doesn’t think they can trust someone or submit to them, then they become rebellious.  Also, not being able to trust and submit our self-focused wills has adverse effects in all areas of our life (i.e., work, family, social, spiritual, etc.).

When I became free from this stronghold combination, I could then control my thoughts and emotions.  To be honest, it took some time to transform all my wrong thinking and unhealthy beliefs, that triggered automatic respone programming from my childhood.  To eliminate this stronghold combination, I asked God to show me the memories of offense of what I thought was unfair.  Past memories include childhood up to a moment ago.  Note, if a situation is fair, but you don’t think it is, this still creates an offense, just look at our political landscape.

Here is one example of many, I was responsible for doing all the dishes for a month for five members of my family, and each month my sisters and I would take turns.  I thought this was so unfair, and I had issues of doing the dishes for many years.  This memory caused many needless conflicts with my children and husband.  Eliminating the power of the memories of offense and unhealthy beliefs from our hearts and minds, frees us from the control of stronghold combinations.  The key is to overcoming is to stay mindful of the goal to love others well and not be self-centered, even toward other drivers.

The need to heal issues of frustration became clear after eliminating this stronghold combination.  So, I transformed the memories of my mother’s frustration by eliminating the negative energy and forgiving her.  I also had to forgive myself for being frustrated with my children and husband.  Next, I transformed the unhealthy belief that I have to control circumstances and what people do with the truth that I can only control my self.  Then I applied to my heart and mind the positive attributes found in the “Patience Issues” prayer focus on my website.  A truth statement I chose to believe was that I can be humble, gentle, and patient and show tolerance for others in love (Ephesians 4:2).

If you identify with what I have written, and you want to eliminate the power of offenses then go to my website: hopeforcompletehealing.com and learn how to be free to live a new reality.

How is your blood? Mother Earth News Fair at Seven Springs Ski Resort

blood picAt the fair, I decided to see what the health of my blood was, so I visited Dr. Misak’s booth, from Pittsburgh Alternative Health (website: pittsburghalternativehealth.com). He took a drop of my blood and displayed it for me to see the individual components. The picture above shows some of what I saw. He explained what the problems were, and what I needed to do about it. Pretty cool stuff. You can learn more about this process at www.biomedx.com. Would you like to know a way to examine our behavior and reactions? For example, the GPS directed us to a closed road, and it would not recalculate. We had no idea how to get to the ski resort. I panicked and became very anxious. Why? The book I wrote called “Hope for Complete Healing” explains how to examine our reactions to determine the why. You can read my book on my website hopeforcompletehealing.com.

I rate this fair at 5 stars. 100+ workshops taught everything from living off-the-grid, installing solar, organic gardening, growing mushrooms, keeping bees, animal husbandry, prepping, natural health, and homesteading. You could take classes on making your own mead, coconut milk, cheese, bread, bacon, fermented foods, makeup, and medicine. There even was a class on how to build mud/straw structures. About 240 vendors were willing to help you with all your health needs, gardening problems, farm supplies, cooking utensils, and so much more. They even had a mushroom walk in the woods to identify different mushrooms. If any of these topics interest you, then check out the Mother Earth News website to see where and when the next fair is.

My husband went to a workshop by “Happy Leaf,” about how to grow an indoor garden. He took me to their booth, and I saw the beautiful plants they produced with their special LED Grow lights. As a gardener, I was very impressed. See the picture below of their passive hydroponics starter kit. You can learn more at http://happyleafled.com/

LED Grow Lights

I went to a workshop on how to make your own makeup hosted by Maria Rayma. Her website is http://humblebeeandme.com/, which is a fabulous must-see website. The last workshop we attended was called “Prepping 101.” This speaker talked about how to prepare for a catastrophe. I do agree that we all should have at least two weeks of food and water in the event you lose power from a natural disaster. I also agree you should have alternative energy and heat sources during and after a natural disaster. Therefore, be prepared for the unexpected but don’t be controlled by an irrational fear. Irrational fear is a stronghold that keeps you believing wrong things, so you do crazy things to prepare. I know people who are doing this. If you feel you are being controlled by irrational fear or you know someone who is, please go to my website hopeforcompletehealing.com. You will learn how to become free from strongholds and unhealthy beliefs.

Freedom from the Snares of Disrespect, Unworthiness, and Failure

Have you been disrespected, demeaned, and feel like a failure?  Do you feel unworthy to be respected?  Do you find yourself being disrespectful when others fail to meet your expectations or know someone who is disrespectful to you when you fail? Do you bad mouth people and treat them as lower than yourself? Do you feel unworthy of respect, or are you treating others as unworthy of respect? All bad behavior has a source. So, don’t make excuses, but ask God, “Why am I behaving this way?” “What is the root or source behind my behavior?” “Why am I being disrespected and am I attracting disrespectful behavior?

The following my testimony of the connection between disrespect, unworthiness, and failure. For example, if my husband did not meet my expectations, then I would demean him, which is not godly behavior. God wants us to value others and to honor them; therefore, being disrespectful is not loving and is a sin. So, I asked God to show me the root of why I was being irritated. He revealed that I had painful memories of not being valued as a child or by my first husband. I also had disdain for my first husband because of his abusiveness. Additionally, I was influenced by my mother’s disrespect and contempt for my father. Therefore, I developed unhealthy beliefs and wrong thinking that caused my sinful behavior of disrespect.

God also revealed that I felt like a failure as a child, especially with schoolwork and reading. I was told I should have been in special education classes, but my mother fought against it. I’m sure, you can think of the times when you failed, and others may have treated you as unworthy and disrespected you as well. Failure was the outer mental stronghold that reinforced the inner stronghold of unworthiness. Both mental strongholds protected the authority seat of disrespect, which held the memories of the offenses I had of disdain, dishonor, and rude behaviors. I also realized that disrespect was a generational sin because I observed the same responses in other family members.

The following is the definition of mental strongholds for those who are just learning about them.  You can also find many examples on my website. Mental strongholds are the mental fortresses that would look like castle walls if they had a physical form.  Bad memories build these mental strongholds to protect us from more hurt. But in fact, they keep us from experiencing life and love. Strongholds are usually built to protect an unhealthy belief or beliefs generated by bad experiences that we have often forgotten about but still control us. Visit my website for more details about the many unhealthy beliefs we can have. Authority seats are like thrones within a fortified castle. A ruler builds a fortress to protect his or her interests and authority to rule. Our mental strongholds need to be torn down so they can stop controlling our reactions and decisions.

The following are some of the unhealthy beliefs I had. “I am not worthy of respect, and no one else is worthy of my respect.” “I am inferior to others and deserve to be treated as inferior.” “I have no value and what I have to say is not valued.” “Men are not worthy of respect because they fail to meet expectations.” There are many other unhealthy beliefs associated with these two strongholds.  I replaced these unhealthy beliefs with the truths found in the section on my website called MEEKNESS/HUMILITY ISSUES.  Can you see the connection now between failure, feeling unworthy, and disrespect for yourself and others?

There is hope for complete healing and transformation, please read the pages on my website to learn how.